Susan, you hit on something that really, really scares me...and while I know why, I've never really gotten past it. Being perceived as lazy is a huge trigger for me. Do not WANT.

I hear you--I'm the same way. But I figure those of us who hate the very idea of being perceived as lazy probably AREN'T lazy and are rarely/never viewed that way. Of course, I really DO procrastinate way too much, which sometimes has the same effect as laziness...

Uh. No. The preferred spelling is judgment.

In the US, yes. But not everywhere. It's one of the words listed under UK/US spelling differences.

Heh. I am lazy and I still finished a book and two articles this summer.

It's crazy scramble time at Chez Zmayhem.

The birthday cake is out of the oven but I have to make the frosting from scratch.

Our pool party got RAINED OUT!

So now we have to keep a pack of 11 year old boys entertained for a couple hours in doors.

I've decided that I'll frost the cake but let them decorate it. Open presents first instead of last so we can play with stuff. Pizza. DVD. Cake.

In between? The greatest indoor sport ever invented: Slow Motion Balloon Volleyball!

Assuming that she really didn't answer, and actually was asked, then some kind of action being taken is one thing.

Pressing charges AFTER it was found to be a non-malicious fuck up and compounding that by saying she's just lucky they didn't use deadly force is an entirely different ball of wax.

I absolutely agree, Plei. Also the fact that she is non-white raised my eyebrow as well.

And terroristic charges shouldn't be pressed against the guys that hung them (I believe those were dropped within a few days).

It was weeks, if not a couple of months until they dropped those charges.

I can't judge the reaction of the authorities in the moment- they have to do what they think is right, in the blink of an eye. But then charging her was just lame ass. That's the Boston way, it seems. Hey, you made us look stupid! Um, that's a crime now, don't you know?

When in fact they shouldn't worry about looking stupid for doing their job. Maybe I'm ascribing a false motivation, but that's what it seems like from the outside.

ION, Skybus=FAIL once again. Flight was 3 hours late, getting us in (and causing my BIL to pick us up at) 2:15am.

8:30am, the kids were clamoring for aunt and uncle time. Heh. It's quiet/nap time now.

Incidentally, I meant to ask before - what does A/IP (if I recall the initials properly) mean?

A/PI. Asian/Pacific Islander, I believe.

Yep. Asian/Pacific Islander. It's just really hard for be to believe we'd have seen that same reaction if she hadn't had brown skin.

Cake fell apart.

Icing is 1 lb. of Trader Joe's chocolate melted and whisked with cream and butter.

Looks like a mudslide, tastes like brownies in chocolate sauce.

We're off!

Looks like a mudslide, tastes like brownies in chocolate sauce.

Oh, like that's a BAD thing.

But I figure those of us who hate the very idea of being perceived as lazy probably AREN'T lazy and are rarely/never viewed that way. Of course, I really DO procrastinate way too much, which sometimes has the same effect as laziness...

We could be the same person! I would say the exact same thing about worrying about lazy probably means no lazy...and yet.

I'm working hard on doing what it takes to feel better about how I spend my time...both using it more efficiently and being okay when I don't.

Process! It's always a process.

Thanks for the encouraging words. I really appreciate it.

Being perceived as lazy is a huge trigger for me.

Ha. that used to be a major trigger for me . not so much anymore - I realized I am not that ambitious - which isn't the same as lazy. I work hard - and do my best at almost everything I do - but i don't have any need to go higher , faster, or farther. When I do set goals, they are usually tangible and have some obvious benefit to me. I still get pinged by the word lazy - but it isn't the big word it used to be

eta: I started this before I saw bonny's post