My favorite line about funeral attire comes from Their Eyes Were Watching God, when Joe dies and Janie goes to the funeral in her overalls: "She was too busy feeling grief to dress like grief.

Oh, I love that you just quoted this. TEWWG is one of my favorite books, and that line always gets me.

It's funny. I always have dressed up and worn dark colors when going to a funeral, but when I die I really am one of those freaks who would want friends and family to throw a big party, dress in whatever is comfortable, and stay as far away from the remains of my body as possible. That said, I know that funerals are about the living, not the dead. If friends/family needed a sober gathering, more power to 'em.

ps - if there is any house-selling~ma out there, we could use it.

t sends house-selling ~ma to Sox

I am futless. I have been being good and reading a book that I'm using in my Creative Writing class, but now I feel the need for a break. I need more people to live closer to me. Wait, scratch that...more people I know and like to live closer to me. Most of my friends live far enough away that I can't just call them up and say, "Hey, let's go do something for an hour." It would take an hour to manage to get together, which really isn't going to work since I still have more to do tonight.

I should go to the gym. Or for a run. You will note that I am doing none of the above.

Sox, here's the text:

Hope you didn't fall in love or get married tonight.

re: the fundraiser. From someone I had not at that point met. It was a very WTF?!?!? moment for me.

Glad you were able to see the exhibit. Sorry your weekend plans didn't go quite as well as you had hoped. I probably won't have much visiting time until after I come back from seeing my parents.

of course - and if we don't see you before, have a great, safe trip.

yah - I would have gone 'glarg' over a random text like that too. so he was boring? or was that just the post-surgery meds? or was the text the post-surgery meds? (see? I am wicked and mean. just like I promised)

Honestly? Don't know. I might just be callous and strange.

you have a way to get to the airport and all?

Yup, I'm going to take the train. I still have a little bit of time (leaving 9/25) but not much time to socialize. Although I might not be correct in that. Depends on how much I accomplish between now and then.

I'm watching Angel and drinking tea. Also have a bit of a headache, which does not thrill me.

For my funeral, I expect veiling, black-edged hankies, armbands, and a great wailing and gnashing of teeth.

And then likker. Lots and lots of likker. And people talking all about me. Cause I plan on being there.

Being from the Midwest, I would never attend a funeral in clothing that wasn't sober and darkish, unless I knew FOR SURE that the person/person's family was from a different culture and something different (say, white) was appropriate. And being from the Midwest, this has never personally happened to me.

But it's all about repect, I think. I would never diss an obviously grieving person for what they were wearing.

Ok. Maybe a little, but in my head and I would feel bad. If it were a REALLY awful thing, like a bikini top and tutu.

veiling, black-edged hankies, armbands

PLEASE NOTE: ONLY veiling, black-edged hankies, armbands are specified. Nekkid veiled party at Erin's funeral!!!

(and you know I kid, love!)