Oh well Cambridge can still be pretty snooty. My old flatmate was from Leeds, and she got quite a few comments during her time at Cambridge about Northerners.

For 1st - 8th grade I had brought a 1/2 peanut butter on whole wheat sandwich for lunch every day

Heh. I don't think I've ever eaten just half a sandwich in my entire life.

Jr. and Sr. years of HS sucked because all my friends had graduated and I never did get any better at my various sports. And I wanted to be out of that little town so badly it was killing me.

First college was great until the theater department fell apart. NYU was heaven even though I had to work 20-30 hours a week on top of classes and rehearsals. (gave up on sleep long ago)

My theory has always been that if you're not desperate to get out of school by your final year, there's something very wrong with you.

Parental hivemind advice requested:

Annabel occasionally rejects clothes she doesn't like by saying, "That's too pretty for me." Should I interpret that as 3-year-old speak for, "That print is too busy and/or that outfit has too many ruffles and frills for my taste," or should I be concerned that some mean kid at daycare has told her she isn't pretty and shouldn't wear pretty things?

I really, really think it's the former. She's definitely a budding tomboy. For awhile it was no pink, no flowers, no dresses, period, but lately she's showing a preference for things that are girly, but more girl jock than princess. Pink sneakers and baseball cap, denim skirts, etc. I think she just doesn't like the styles she calls "too pretty." But OTOH, if someone *has* been telling my daughter she's not pretty, I want to find them and go all Mama Bear on their ass, you know? Because I know Annabel will eventually have to deal with her own version of a self-image monster, but 3 is too young for that! And besides, my daughter is beautiful, dammit.

Colour me broke. I had 6 courses left to take in my previously-scheduled last semester and decided hell no. So I graduated in 3.5 years instead of 3, with a 4 course penultimate semester, and a 2 course final one. And not even summer.

I still helped run at least one campus group for a year+ after graduation, and took martial arts in the gym for an extra semester.

Meara, I took 4 A levels. An ABB offer meant that if I got one A and two Bs among the 4, I was in. It was a total surprise, because it was achievable. I think I was the only student in my school who didn't test, and I didn't even want to go.

Annabel occasionally rejects clothes she doesn't like by saying, "That's too pretty for me." Should I interpret that as 3-year-old speak for, "That print is too busy and/or that outfit has too many ruffles and frills for my taste," or should I be concerned that some mean kid at daycare has told her she isn't pretty and shouldn't wear pretty things.

That sounds like it's coming from Annabel, not other kids. She has already expressed a strong preference for non-girly colors and patterns, so I think that's how she's using the word "pretty."

Why settle for pretty when she's already beautiful and has a distinct sense of style?

Thanks, Hec! That was my instinct, but I wanted to see what more experienced parents thought.

I'd agree with Hec -- too pretty because of the mean kids plays more like a wistful "I love it... but I can't wear it... *sob*". What you're describing sounds more like "not my style and I don't want it", which, go team tomboy!

Not a parent, but based on what you're saying, Susan, it sounds like she's trying to say, "That's too feminine for my taste" but doesn't yet have the vocabulary.

On the other hand, you might want to touch base with the grownups at daycare. Maybe phrase it as asking whether they're seeing any issues that you may not be seeing.

I think Hec has the right idea. Maybe try introducing other words - busy, frilly, flowery....whatever...and see if she shifts from "pretty" to something more descriptive.

CJ is just NOW, at 11 years old, getting picky over what he wears. Must be a boy thing to not care for so long.