Nilly! Callaluna (thanks for the identity check in your tagline)!

That is a fabulous compromise. Being embarrassingly uninformed, I was thinking as I was reading - why not wear the cheesy tux to the bachelor party, but you get to play along with him in your idea. And I absolutely love it.

My niece is getting married in a few weeks, and she has been working very hard at not going Bridezilla. I'm looking forward to it, because I'm sure it's going to be perfectly beautiful *and* a boatload of fun.

Edited because Nilly's edit made me all misty for why I'm so glad to be here. "Happy to see your font," indeed!

I really don't think I am Bridezilla, but I spend a lot of time worrying that other people think I am. Sure, I am insanely stressed out and prone to bouts of bitchiness and/or crying fits, but I am NOT obsessing about the details, I'm just trying to get everything done. I don't care if the exact right flower is represented in every bouquet, I don't care if the plates exactly match the tablecloths, I don't care if the chairs have chairbacks (this is my Mom's project -she cares very much. I'm just letting her do what she wants), I don't care if the bridesmaids match or if their hair is perfect, I don't care if we have a special cake serving set (again, my Mom cares), I don't care if we even HAVE a guest book (Mom cared. I ordered one), I don't care who sits where. I care about the cake, because I've daydreamed about the perfect cake for ages. I care that there BE centerpieces (this is proving almost comically difficult, by the way). I care that everyone I love is there, that everyone gets fed, and that everyone enjoys the night.

Oh, and I want to look pretty. ;)

I have to get to work, must run.

And I am always cheered to see your font, Nilly!

katefate, my friends who have CPAP have found their lives much improved, fwiw.

Me, I was laid off from my job of ten years this spring, so I've been enjoying my severance pay and slowly gearing up to look for a new job -- now I'm in the daunting 'looking for work' phase itself. Also I forgot a payment, and the new COBRA management has cut off my health insurance for good. But at least I can start a new plan on 9/1 so my goal for the next 2.7 weeks is to stay healthy and uninjured.

Callaluna, maybe you should just tell him about the Portrait in Blue idea -- it is an excellent compromise, but if he's continuously pissed off about that one issue, maybe doing it as a surprise isn't the best idea.

Callaluna, maybe if you make him 'surprised' now with the Portrait in Blue tuxedo and your plans (and explain that it's been in train for a while now, so it's obvious this is not a last-minute placation) this will help the attitude.

But I think the problem is mostly a version of Wedding Nerves, Groom-style.

You could also try suggesting that you both have an Unstressing Afternoon together as a followup to the Tuxedo Morning part of the day-off. That way, there's the Spoonful of Sugar, right there.

So sorry about the layoff, Theo. I hope it means great things are in store for you. 2.7 week~ma to you!

Callaluna - I sooo understand about the Bridezilla thing (not want to be one; not wanting to be perceived as one). The reason I perceive it as being hard work is that I accompanied my niece on several of her appointment when she was interviewing caterers, planners, florists, etc. It seemed like they not only assumed they were speaking with a Bridezilla, when she stuck to her guns about simplicity, they actively tried to turn her into a BZ. I admire her - she's got a way of being totally stubborn, yet remaining completely charming.

I would have been, how you say, "insanely stressed out and prone to bouts of bitchiness and/or crying fits," myself.

eta: Good points about PiB being a surprise. I think, too, having some fun to look forward to might make the stress of the ceremony a little bit better.

Theo - I keep hearing the same thing about CPAP, so I'm willing to keep with it until I've adjusted.

And with that, I must off to work to chip away at the Training Document That Wouldn't Die.

I missed katefate?

Sad now.

The early bird gets the katefate!

The early bird gets the katefate!

That sounds so ... porny yet wholesome, somehow.

The early bird gets the katefate!

I was early! Just on the wrong coast.