I think Actual Sex With Someone Else is a pretty big bright line. And special in its own shitty way. It's really clear, for example, if you've had sex with someone not your spouse. Have you been loving, honoring and cherishing enough? Well, that's a bit trickier to define, but (barring intoxication) you know for certain if you've gone and sexed the neighbor.
Of course, there are lots of other ways to be shitty.
You can stop hanging out with your on-line buddy so much, but you can't un-fuck them.
ION, my sister is looking for a new place to live. What do you think this guy was smoking when he posted this:
Ok i need someone to move in ASAP, I need a male or female who loves to smoke all things, and loves video games, i'll cook and hire a cleaning lady and you pay 400 for the master bedroom, with own bathroom, for 400 on Albion between Farwell and prospect. AWESOME LOCATION. Around the corner from Maharaja. Brady st. is a block or two away. We might be able too work out a free rent situation if you want to work for me but I would rather have the cash, if you need me to fro0nt security deposit that cool, but I don't like dealing with personal loans. Let me know if you are interested in the free room and working for me, I own 2 businesses and love to party hard. If this is you hit me up. DO NOT RESPOND IF YOU ARE UNDER 18!!!!! sorry just dont love youngsters who are immature. Let me know ASAP because this place will rent VERY soon.
Also, he hid the whole 'wife' status of the relationship from RL Wife, who thought SL Wife was a business partner.
This is what would lead me to calling it cheating. If you're lying or deliberately not telling your partner something, it's cheating.
I won't make a moral judgement on the cheating, but that's what it is.
Regardless of whether it's adultery or not, the marriage needs some serious counseling, and probably individual therapy for the guy if they can get him to admit to a problem.
Relatedly, did anyone read the long article about couples counseling in the NYT magazine this weekend? And immediately over-identify with it? Or was it just me?
I didn't identify, just kept shaking my head on why some people get married.
I need a male or female who loves to smoke all things
Why's he gotta discriminate against the fun-loving hermaphrodite alien baby non-smokers?
What do you think this guy was smoking when he posted this:
duuuuuuuude....
Your sis is in Milwaukee, right? Possibly I know this guy....
Hee.
We're now speculating as to what his "businesses" are. But I am so far unsuccessful in my efforts to get her to call him and ask.
But I am so far unsuccessful in my efforts to get her to call him and ask.
Something that involves "working hard" and "lots of partying."
Maybe he's a pimp.
This is what would lead me to calling it cheating. If you're lying or deliberately not telling your partner something, it's cheating.
An ex of mine used to call for long 'counseling' sessions before and after his marriage. At some point he let it slip that he never told his wife about our conversations and that it made him nervous to be speaking to me.
I was aghast...when I asked what the problem was, he said that it constituted cheating. Dude! I gave you the advice that helped you to actually ask this woman to marry you!! We don't talk about anything but your problems...how on earth is that cheating.
I bid him a fond farewell and felt a little sorry for the bride.
