Also, he hid the whole 'wife' status of the relationship from RL Wife, who thought SL Wife was a business partner.

Ok, am I the only one who went "still be here"? Where are you planning on going, missy?

You're not the only one.

paperdol, if he hated you and your uninteresting life, why did he read the whole darn thing? And give you the mention? Oy. People.

Kathy, I hope this gets cleared up and never comes back to haunt you.

Now I have to figure out what job Vortex wants at UC-Davis.

Okay, possibly not adultery. But really skating right on the edge of it

eh, cheating is cheating in my book. Parsing the difference between adultery versus some other intense emotional investment to someone other than his wife is probably not going to mean much to the person who's feeling neglected. But yeah, his mother dying, his own health woes, RL marriage to someone he probably isn't suited to, looks like a fairly typical case of mid-life crisis. But with cute avatar photo-op!

Also, he hid the whole 'wife' status of the relationship from RL Wife, who thought SL Wife was a business partner.

In one of the blog posts about the article, it seems the author misled him as to what she was writing about (claiming it was about his online business), and failed to disclose that she'd met his wife (the real one) through that EverQuest widows support group.

The whole thing's one big bad taste in the mouth.

In other news, Rudy Giuliani is still a prick. Gawker on the New Yorker article.

it seems the author misled him as to what she was writing about (claiming it was about his online business), and failed to disclose that she'd met his wife (the real one) through that EverQuest widows support group.

ha! So it's a don't-get-mad-get-even article! That makes the whole thing, not funny, but certainly a lot more like an Onion article.

Okay, possibly not adultery. But really skating right on the edge of it

eh, cheating is cheating in my book. Parsing the difference between adultery versus some other intense emotional investment to someone other than his wife is probably not going to mean much to the person who's feeling neglected.

Yeah, I'd call it adultery. But I'm also putting all of that down to "people? Often suck."

Lee! Whyfor you moving? Also, check your email.

To me it doesn't so much matter whether it is adultery or not-- he's not a good husband right now. But maybe someone can argue that adultery is worse than what he's doing. It's worse than just someone who obsesses over videogames and neglects their SO-- he is (probably) trading one intimate relationship for another.

Relatedly, did anyone read the long article about couples counseling in the NYT magazine this weekend? And immediately over-identify with it? Or was it just me?

I read Lee's comment to mean she'll be in town then, not that she'll be moving soon. Am I the confused one?

(not because he was too overworked to give that emotional spark to anyone, but because he had it to give and was giving it elsewhere),

Yeah, that's a huuge difference. That takes it a step beyond.

I would say though, that it's very clear there's a lot going off the rails in this man's head, for one reason or another, and this is only part of it.