I guess I object to dubbing it "adultery". Is spending too much time and emotional energy at work "Office Adultery"? If he was at church all the time is it "Jesus Adultery"? If it was with his Mom is it...
It's possible that he's in the land of perpetual Wednesday, or the crazy melty land, or you know, the world without shrimp.
Anya ,'Showtime'
Natter 53: We could just avoid making tortured puns
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Trudy Booth - Aug 13, 2007 10:46:52 am PDT #4377 of 10001
Greece's financial crisis threatens to take down all of Western civilization - a civilization they themselves founded. A rather tragic irony - which is something they also invented. - Jon Stewart
shrift - Aug 13, 2007 10:48:38 am PDT #4378 of 10001
"You can't put a price on the joy of not giving a shit." -Zenkitty
I didn't mention it to anyone for fear of eye-rolling because I knew.
Oh yeah, I got mocked a lot this weekend. Lovingly mocked, but still.
Theodosia - Aug 13, 2007 10:50:31 am PDT #4379 of 10001
'we all walk this earth feeling we are frauds. The trick is to be grateful and hope the caper doesn't end any time soon"
Ahem -- I linked to the Hoorenbeck story here two days ago:
Theodosia "Natter 53: We could just avoid making tortured puns" Aug 11, 2007 6:43:45 am PDT
I think people are mistaking a symptom for a cause -- when you find out that not only did his mother die suddenly two weeks before he started online with SL, but he's also had to go on disabiity for health reasons. So it's an unhealthy obsession, but it could have as easily been for gambling, drugs or sports paraphernalia.
Kathy A - Aug 13, 2007 10:51:29 am PDT #4380 of 10001
We're very stretchy. - Connie Neil
Did they steal your actual card or get the number from somewhere?
They got the number somewhere. Funny thing is, one of the charges from Sunday was for Second Life!
We're heading over to the bank now, and then some shopping at Nordstrom's Rack for shoes. Tata!
SuziQ - Aug 13, 2007 10:51:41 am PDT #4381 of 10001
Back tattoos of the mother is that you are absolutely right - Ame
I should still be here then.
Ok, am I the only one who went "still be here"? Where are you planning on going, missy?
JZ - Aug 13, 2007 10:57:01 am PDT #4382 of 10001
See? I gave everybody here an opportunity to tell me what a bad person I am and nobody did, because I fuckin' rule.
Is spending too much time and emotional energy at work "Office Adultery"? If he was at church all the time is it "Jesus Adultery"? If it was with his Mom is it...
Well, no, but if he had an "Office Wife" and a "Church Wife" and called his mom "Mom Wife," and if he had private jokes with them and did fun things with them and was generous and supportive and involved to the point where his quotemarks-less Wife Wife felt seriously emotionally shortchanged (not because he was too overworked to give that emotional spark to anyone, but because he had it to give and was giving it elsewhere), and he continually brushed off her concerns as petty fussing over what was "just work" and "just church" and expected her to be cheerful and merry about the other wives just because he was generously refraining from having actual sweaty sex with them...
Okay, possibly not adultery. But really skating right on the edge of it, with a hearty side helping of emotional abuse and monstrous selfishness. Not quite adultery, but near enough as makes no difference.
Theodosia - Aug 13, 2007 11:01:22 am PDT #4383 of 10001
'we all walk this earth feeling we are frauds. The trick is to be grateful and hope the caper doesn't end any time soon"
Also, he hid the whole 'wife' status of the relationship from RL Wife, who thought SL Wife was a business partner.
Sparky1 - Aug 13, 2007 11:04:34 am PDT #4384 of 10001
Librarian Warlord
Ok, am I the only one who went "still be here"? Where are you planning on going, missy?
You're not the only one.
paperdol, if he hated you and your uninteresting life, why did he read the whole darn thing? And give you the mention? Oy. People.
Kathy, I hope this gets cleared up and never comes back to haunt you.
Now I have to figure out what job Vortex wants at UC-Davis.
Burrell - Aug 13, 2007 11:07:07 am PDT #4385 of 10001
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!
Okay, possibly not adultery. But really skating right on the edge of it
eh, cheating is cheating in my book. Parsing the difference between adultery versus some other intense emotional investment to someone other than his wife is probably not going to mean much to the person who's feeling neglected. But yeah, his mother dying, his own health woes, RL marriage to someone he probably isn't suited to, looks like a fairly typical case of mid-life crisis. But with cute avatar photo-op!
P.M. Marc - Aug 13, 2007 11:07:37 am PDT #4386 of 10001
So come, my friends, be not afraid/We are so lightly here/It is in love that we are made; In love we disappear
Also, he hid the whole 'wife' status of the relationship from RL Wife, who thought SL Wife was a business partner.
In one of the blog posts about the article, it seems the author misled him as to what she was writing about (claiming it was about his online business), and failed to disclose that she'd met his wife (the real one) through that EverQuest widows support group.
The whole thing's one big bad taste in the mouth.