I agree with that, too, David. My "move to action" post is just how do people want to modify (or, do people want to modify and how?) the FAQ or wherever this wants to be. I don't think codifying how someone has to respond to a call-out makes any kind of sense for all the reasons you point out. I also think providing a link or two to how it can be done if one chooses to might be helpful.

Or, is it sufficient to just continue on with community life having had this discussion and acknowledged these things?

I think something needs to be added and announced in Press. If people don't follow this thread, they have no idea this discussion is going on.

I agree with Dana. I really agree with the paragraph from David that everyone has cited. Unfortunately I think someone needs to step up and take a small change it to vote, to announce in press etc. I am honestly not sure I have the bandwidth to do that.

I really hate the idea of voting on this. We’re not really instituting a new process here are we? This feels more like an update or clarification of general principles. Maybe I’m wrong but it feels like the moment calls for a bullshit consensus.

Or to put it another way - I think putting this to vote has the power to do further harm to people who’ve already been hurt in this incident. Not the outcome, but the very act of voting.

I was thinking something like that too. I don't want it to feel like we're targeting anyone specifically, and I do think this issue has come up other times, though in a less explosive way.

We have been talking about revising/updating the FAQ etc for forever. Maybe it’s time to actually do it and this would be part of that. Would that need a vote?

This feels more like an update or clarification of general principles.

We have been talking about revising/updating the FAQ etc for forever. Maybe it’s time to actually do it and this would be part of that. Would that need a vote?

I think this is where we are but I'd like to hear from Glam again on the issues first. She's raised some of the biggest concerns and I'd want to hear her thoughts.

I don't know if we need a vote to clarify/update principles. Probably? But I don't think we're instituting new policies (as yet).

Or to put it another way - I think putting this to vote has the power to do further harm to people who’ve already been hurt in this incident. Not the outcome, but the very act of voting.

Agreed. That already happens enough in the larger political sphere. I don't think we should vote on each other's right to be treated fairly.

Why would we accept that imperfection? Because any formal enforcement will quickly descend into ambiguous situations which will be impossible to judge.

I agree, and would like to add another point to it. I am not sure how (or if) we can make room for imperfections, but the gaps and silences in our disagreements about intents and impacts are also sometimes where where learning and listening take place and roots. As Atropa (and someone else?) said before, we will not be an exemplary community in our reaction to this. We are and will continue to be different from one another, and that includes our reactions to offenses and their interpretations. I 100% agree that not hurting other people in this community should be a ground rule, but I have no idea how to accommodate both this and knowing that learning can come from imperfections in different paces and variations. There will be apologies that will not be ideal, and people who will disagree on what should be the essence of that process. (As others, I was on both sides of this discussion several times. There is no ideal solution for all).

So I continue thinking about this. If we can have a guideline that will allow enough safe space with some space for conversations and different learning processes. But I agree that a clearer guideline in the FAQ and Press about expected behavior is a good place to start.

(I am a bit under the weather with a migraine but don't really have any other time to respond, so I hope I managed to understand the discussion properly and be clear).

Guidelines are good. They can help people avoid a guacamole experience, they can articulate the opportunity for learning and growth, and they can show that we’re actively working towards making a space that’s welcoming to people in marginalized groups.