Why wouldn't they have gone to Dick's family? Dog tags are not just a memento, they are proof of identification.

If a soldier doesn't have any family, his CO might take his stuff.

She is 100% wrong.

I don't think so. She wasn't exactly taking the moral high ground by snooping, but she didn't break into his secret drawer with a butter knife the second his back was turned, either. She knows he's fucked around on her and surely suspects at least a little that he is again (we, of course, know he is, but even without that all those late nights working have to be raising some doubts even if she immediately squashes them (and what would she tell herself to squash them? Has he done anything to make her think she can trust him to be faithful to her?)). I can totally understand indulging a little peek under those circumstances when the keys just turn up in the laundry like that.

I can totally understand indulging a little peek under those circumstances when the keys just turn up in the laundry like that.

oh, I understand it, but it doesn't make it right.

I'm getting close to talking myself into thinking that she was right to see what was in that drawer in order to protect herself.

I'm fanatically territorial, so I don't think that I'm ever going to see intruding on someone's privacy as okay unless you had a reasonable fear that you or someone else was in serious danger.

My gut-level response is to agree with that, but when I start thinking of exceptions I can come up with many that I am at least not sure about. I just think it's more of a grey area.

If I were Betty, I totally would have gone through that drawer. With their history she had a reason to believe there were items in it that had the power to hurt her and her kids. And she's not wrong.

Now with my own SO? I'd never intrude on her personal effects. She has given me no reason to distrust her so it would be purely to snoop and invade her privacy.

Don has so much power to do things that affect Betty and not even tell her, it seems unfair to add to that by making his privacy sacrosanct.

but she didn't break into his secret drawer with a butter knife the second his back was turned, either.

Not for lack of trying - she's been trying to get into that drawer since S1. She just couldn't break the lock.

Fair enough. I thought there was some sort of history to the secret drawer of mystery but I couldn't remember it. Doesn't make any difference to my feeling on her wrongness, I don't think, but it may strike me differently in a bit since my brain can't seem to let this go.