My work's illegal, but at least it's honest.

Mal ,'Shindig'


Spike's Bitches 36: Did I Sully Our Good Name?  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risque (and frisque), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


Aims - Aug 03, 2007 6:44:31 am PDT #9816 of 10001
Shit's all sorts of different now.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY DEENA!!!


§ ita § - Aug 03, 2007 6:47:34 am PDT #9817 of 10001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.

Happy birthday, Deena!


Laura - Aug 03, 2007 6:50:47 am PDT #9818 of 10001
Our wings are not tired.

Bwah, commemorative plate! That is brlliant.

~ma to the Buffista parents and Buffistas that stress over their health and well being.

Yay for itty bitty heartbeats.

Belated happys for the anniversaries of Kristin & ND and Aimée & MM. With wishes for much happiness to come.

What is happening with Billytea and the Wallybee? I missed something good.

Car~ma and Job~ma where needed.

Yay Emmett! I’m looking forward to being able to say I knew him when.

My mother won’t even read email unless step-dad prints it out, so unlikely to ever encounter her on line. She has never had a negative comment about my life choices, and really she could have made plenty! I’m blessed. I hope I can be as accepting and supportive as she has been when the boys become adults.

Drink lots of fluids, vw. And feel better.

P-C, the real estate market is a lot trickier now than it was for decades. Be careful. If I had rent that sweet I wouldn’t be in a rush. That said, real estate been verry good to me.

Well, I said I was going to catch up. Now I gotta work.


SuziQ - Aug 03, 2007 6:58:04 am PDT #9819 of 10001
Back tattoos of the mother is that you are absolutely right - Ame

Happy Birthday, Deena!!!!


beekaytee - Aug 03, 2007 7:00:52 am PDT #9820 of 10001
Compassionately intolerant

JZ's commemorative plate just made my heart burst. How incredibly sweet and supportive and, yeah...awkward.

On the telling vs. dishonesty point:

I just got off the phone with a client talking about how disclosing everything all the time can be more about inviting people to share your negative self image than it is about doing something honorable or for the other person.

The question was: is it 'slimy' to not disclose guilt feelings about something that was inherently not guilt-worthy.

Answer in the form of a question: How is the sharing of those feelings going to make up for what you think you did wrong?

I love my work.


Laura - Aug 03, 2007 7:09:24 am PDT #9821 of 10001
Our wings are not tired.

Bev, so good to read the news. Phew!

My mom has come a long way. From having no warning at all about getting a period and no discussion ever anytime about The Sex, to assisting when I had my first child and talking about the "wet jock" contest at the resort where she and step-dad were staying. Still, no commemorative plate. I think I love JZ's mom.


Fred Pete - Aug 03, 2007 7:12:09 am PDT #9822 of 10001
Ann, that's a ferret.

Okay, maybe this is male cluelessness coming out.

I can see that at least one parent needs to know when a daughter's periods start. At the very least, daughter will need those feminine products that are so often advertised with flowing dresses, rainbows, and sunsets.

But why would a parent consider it a cause for celebration? Is it celebration of a dividing line between "girl" and "woman"?


Aims - Aug 03, 2007 7:13:04 am PDT #9823 of 10001
Shit's all sorts of different now.

Is it celebration of a dividing line between "girl" and "woman"?

This. For some mothers. I for one, do not forsee myself throwing Emeline a Period Party or distributing anything but the feminine products of her choice.


SuziQ - Aug 03, 2007 7:14:23 am PDT #9824 of 10001
Back tattoos of the mother is that you are absolutely right - Ame

My mom took K-Bug out clothes shopping to commemorate her period getting. Before I even knew a thing. Was kinda miffed in an odd way.

As for the sex stuff - yeah, the specifics of sexual activity do not need to be shared between the child/parentals. K-Bug and I get into interesting enough conversations as it is - I really don't want any real life details.


sj - Aug 03, 2007 7:15:09 am PDT #9825 of 10001
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

Beverly, I'm glad it was nothing.

~ma to ND's and Kristin's moms.