Tons of calm~ma and meeting~ma, Jilli.
Cashmere, you look gorgeous in those pictures!
Jayne (Husband): Oh, I think you might wanna reconsider that last part. See, I married me a powerful ugly creature. Mal (Wife): How can you say that? How can you shame me in front of new people? Jayne (Husband): If I could make you purtier, I would. Mal (Wife): You are not the man I met a year ago.
'Our Mrs. Reynolds'
Spike's Bitches 36: Did I Sully Our Good Name?
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risque (and frisque), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
sj - Jun 25, 2007 8:54:01 am PDT #4092 of 10001
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
juliana - Jun 25, 2007 8:56:24 am PDT #4093 of 10001
I’d be lying if I didn’t say that I miss them all tonight…
Mmmmmm, cantaloupes. Um. Yes.
Pretty pictures, Cash! Your eyes continue to floor me, and I love that dress.
People go batfuck insane during divorces and separations.
This is very true.
Calm~ma and hairpats for Jilli.
Fred Pete - Jun 25, 2007 9:06:08 am PDT #4094 of 10001
Ann, that's a ferret.
Calm~ma and meeting~ma for Jilli.
beth b - Jun 25, 2007 9:38:24 am PDT #4095 of 10001
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!
calm ma~~ Jilli.
lovely , Cass.
My parents had some of their worst fights ever when building their retirement house. As in at one point my dad decicde that all the counters should be wheelchair height - so my mom could cook him dinner. to my mom's indigent question " where will you be" , his answer was " lost in the hall" . Of course the best one was when they were going to build a deck like thing at the top of the stairs down to water. Just before my dad bought the lumber they realized that neither one of them wanted the deck.
Atropa - Jun 25, 2007 9:42:07 am PDT #4096 of 10001
The artist formerly associated with cupcakes.
Thank you for all the ~ma, folks. It worked. I did not get upset or stressed during the meeting. It was mostly my boss checking in on me because of various things that happened last week which undermined any confidence I had in my work. My boss reassured me that I'm doing a good job, and that she is going to try and be around to be a manager more often. (For the past six months, she has Not Been Here, because she's been in meetings all day, every day. There hasn't been a lot of managerial support, feedback, or information lately.)
We talked about some training and classes I might want to look into, and I said that I am planning on talking to my doctor about ways to deal with stress, because spending most of a week on the verge of a panic attack was not something I wanted to repeat.
Which leads me to a kinda-odd question: what do people do when they're in the middle of deadlines at work and feel overwhelmed enough to snap? I really did spend most of last week trying to fend off panic attacks, and I want to figure out how to not have it happen again.
meara - Jun 25, 2007 9:52:15 am PDT #4097 of 10001
Jilli, I make sure to (a) take lunch and (b) do something soothing over lunch--get a pedicure, go to barnes and noble and read a hardback for an hour, sit in the sunshine, whatever (clearly, these may not be your choices of "soothing"). Alternately, have plans that you can look forward to after work that are soothing/relaxing/take your mind off work ("OK, if I can just get to Tuesday night, I have a massage scheduled!" Or whatever). Or reward yourself with some shopping?
juliana - Jun 25, 2007 9:57:59 am PDT #4098 of 10001
I’d be lying if I didn’t say that I miss them all tonight…
Jilli, the absolutely most effective thing for me is Ativan. I realize that's not an optimal solution for a lot of people (and in fact I don't use it that much), but it cuts right through that loop and lets me focus in on what's necessary.
My other coping strategy is working out in the middle of the day, even if I have to get to work an hour earlier in order to get everything in a place to allow me to leave for an hour.
Atropa - Jun 25, 2007 9:59:31 am PDT #4099 of 10001
The artist formerly associated with cupcakes.
Jilli, the absolutely most effective thing for me is Ativan. I realize that's not an optimal solution for a lot of people (and in fact I don't use it that much), but it cuts right through that loop and lets me focus in on what's necessary.
That's actually what I'm going to to talk to my doc about. Because when I hit the near-panic stage, there doesn't seem to be anything that will get me out of that loop.
Strix - Jun 25, 2007 10:01:49 am PDT #4100 of 10001
A dress should be tight enough to show you're a woman but loose enough to flee from zombies. — Ginger
I like Xanax. But I rarely have it, so I am extremely lucky to have a couch in my reading area. During plan, I turn the light off, tape a piece of paper over the window in the door, take off my shoes and lay down for 15 minutes. I don't do it very often, but when I do, it helps.
But mostly I just sublimate until I snap and become an uberbitch. I'm not the poster girl for Good Mental Health.
that might be the single biggest understatement I have EVER made, btw.
Atropa - Jun 25, 2007 10:01:58 am PDT #4101 of 10001
The artist formerly associated with cupcakes.
Jilli, I make sure to (a) take lunch and (b) do something soothing over lunch--get a pedicure, go to barnes and noble and read a hardback for an hour, sit in the sunshine, whatever (clearly, these may not be your choices of "soothing").
Sadly, none of those were an option over last week, because we were in deadline crash mode. Plus, I don't drive and am trapped on a corporate campus in the middle of a suburban-ish area. So getting away for a little bit is kinda tricky.