Please...Wesley...why can't I stay?

Fred ,'A Hole in the World'


Natter Area 51: The Truthiness Is in Here  

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


beth b - May 27, 2007 9:40:03 am PDT #9516 of 10001
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!

sending out the purrs to Senor Sock.

yay babies . and yay eating.

As far as taking risk in romance I believe in following instincts ,( which is not the same as hormones). You can make up rules,because they help you remember and /or articulate why something is a problem. I don't every remember making any rules are red flags - but then I never did a long term dating. But I tend to move very slowly, so not too many guys stuck around. Knowing your own tendencies is probably the better way to make a judgment on suspected red flags


Typo Boy - May 27, 2007 10:26:48 am PDT #9517 of 10001
Calli: My people have a saying. A man who trusts can never be betrayed, only mistaken.Avon: Life expectancy among your people must be extremely short.

In terms of separated. It depends. My Brother is recently divoriced, but it took time for the divorce to become final even though they had a signed agreement about the divorce and were just waiting for court approval. But they specifically put in the separation agreement that there was no hope of reconciliation, that the separation was just until the divorce became final and that they were both free to see other people. (It was very much NOT a friendly divorce-in spite of being able to agree on all the legal issues, they really dislike each other. Fortunately no mutual kids are involved.) Obviously this does not translate into "took off wedding ring two weeks ago" is a good risk. But I would say separation by itself should not automatically be a warning flag; how big a risk it is depends on circumstances of the sepearation.


Kat - May 27, 2007 10:58:44 am PDT #9518 of 10001
"I keep to a strict diet of ill-advised enthusiasm and heartfelt regret." Leigh Bardugo

Mojito cupcakes are of the yum. The bakery near Lori's house makes them every so often and I like 'em well enough. Not MORE than red velvet though.


§ ita § - May 27, 2007 12:22:59 pm PDT #9519 of 10001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.

Oh, Tommy! I so hope it doesn't come to that.


sumi - May 27, 2007 12:26:56 pm PDT #9520 of 10001
Art Crawl!!!

Tommy - I'm so sorry for the continuing bad news.


Kat - May 27, 2007 12:28:35 pm PDT #9521 of 10001
"I keep to a strict diet of ill-advised enthusiasm and heartfelt regret." Leigh Bardugo

Oh tommy, I'm so sorry. Both of you are in my thoughts.


Cass - May 27, 2007 12:36:50 pm PDT #9522 of 10001
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.

Tommy, my thoughts are with you and Senor. I really hope he pulls through and you have more years together.


tommyrot - May 27, 2007 12:39:54 pm PDT #9523 of 10001
Sir, it's not an offence to let your cat eat your bacon. Okay? And we don't arrest cats, I'm very sorry.

Thanks, y'all. I'm sorta' mentally just thinking to tonight and tomorrow (when I'll talk to the vet again) and not really beyond that.

Am going over to a friend's house to try to keep my mind off things. (But she has WiFi so I may pop in here later.)


-t - May 27, 2007 12:49:30 pm PDT #9524 of 10001
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

I'm so sorry, tommyrot. Have a nice distracting evening.


Jesse - May 27, 2007 12:49:37 pm PDT #9525 of 10001
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.

Tommy, I'm so sorry, and wishing you guys the best. Good call on going to a friend's house.