"Hey, you want to have dinner sometime? By the way, I'm e-mailing with potential wives at the moment."I think I dated P-C a while back...
Don't you have an elsewhere to be?
Cordelia ,'Lessons'
Spike's Bitches 35: We Got a History
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risque (and frisque), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Cass - Apr 23, 2007 4:47:09 pm PDT #6419 of 10003
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
libkitty - Apr 23, 2007 4:49:37 pm PDT #6420 of 10003
Embrace the idea that we are the leaders we've been looking for. Grace Lee Boggs
JZ and Juliana, did you get my email? Reading about the gmail problems, I thought I would just double check.
Laura - Apr 23, 2007 5:06:45 pm PDT #6421 of 10003
Our wings are not tired.
I'm apparently supposed to start e-mailing them and see if I like them.
They are likely to be as freaked about the whole thing as you are. DH's college roommate's parents did this to him and after he gave in and communicated with the women they felt the same as he did about the parental pressure.
-t - Apr 23, 2007 5:13:00 pm PDT #6422 of 10003
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
Once have laptop, can't go back. Stop.
Heh. Yup.
P-C, stop me if I've got this wrong, but my understanding is that while you don't like and are freaked out by this whole process, you are committed to going through with it. In which case, I think your best course of action is to think about it as little as possible. Do whatever is expected of you with the e-mails or whatever, but don't think about it in between.
It's possible that this is very bad advice, but you are in kind of a bad situation and sometimes that calls for not really healthy behavior. Or, you know, I don't know what I'm talking about.
Scrappy - Apr 23, 2007 5:14:20 pm PDT #6423 of 10003
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.
Aslo, P-C, ALL dating is a process. Either you meet someone at a party or from fandom or through online dating or this way or in line at the movies or, or, or.... The process doesn't matter. These women may not be someone you will like because they are coming to you this way, but, you know, they may not be someone you DON'T like either. You're single and gettign email about educated, possibly interesting, single women--enjoy that part of it.
Vortex - Apr 23, 2007 5:22:51 pm PDT #6424 of 10003
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman
besides, you're the guy, doesn't that mean that they have to come to you?
sj - Apr 23, 2007 6:18:19 pm PDT #6425 of 10003
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
I ended up pulling off a B in Physiological Psychology!
Daisy Jane - Apr 23, 2007 6:25:33 pm PDT #6426 of 10003
"This bar smells like kerosene and stripper tears."
Way to go sj!
WindSparrow - Apr 23, 2007 6:37:14 pm PDT #6427 of 10003
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
Sunil, now is when you start sending out your version of your bio-data, don't forget.
Hil R. - Apr 23, 2007 6:40:21 pm PDT #6428 of 10003
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l
I know it can't hurt to e-mail, but I keep trying to IGNORE this so I can perhaps happily interact with women in real life. "Hey, you want to have dinner sometime? By the way, I'm e-mailing with potential wives at the moment."
There's nothing saying you can't interact with women in real life while emailing women, too. The women that you're emailing aren't going to want to get married, like, tomorrow, right? It's not like, two emails, you like each other, OK, time to set a wedding date. Just think of it as another way to meet some women who might be interesting or fun. One of them might be your future wife. Maybe not. Either way, just relax.