Giles ,'Beneath You'
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Current Stompy Feet: ita, Jon B, DXMachina, P.M. Marcontell, Liese S., amych
And on the whole Zoe question, if we give her this unofficial warning, if she ignores it, can she get an official warning?
I think so - that's why I'm calling it Stage 1. See Cindy's post (which I am too lazy to Nilly) saying hopefully getting the unofficial warning (or Notice if you prefer) would be enough to encourage those who want to play nice to change their behavior. And it wouldn't have to be such a Big Deal to issue one, because it's intended to be a Nice Heads Up.
I think in this particular situation it could be useful.
Again, we disagree. I think it has been tried, it failed, and there's no reason to think it would work again.
I don't know Trudy, I think it might make me mad to be on either the giving or receiving end of it. Also? I already mother 3 people. I don't want to group-mother random people on the internet.
Zoe, that wasn't nice.
Christopher, don't stand on the couch.
Julia, put my necklace back.
Benjamin, use your inside voice, please.
See what I mean?
[Hideous-looking but delicious omelette:]
What ita said.
If it's gotten to the place where people CAN'T self-Doblerise, then they can't do your shorthand either, can they?
Again, think of it as a sit-in. One guy spontaneously sits at a counter, even five, it's just a fight. If a big honkin' group of people agree to do it a statement can be made.
(Fortunately, no one is going to turn hoses on us. We are risking NOTHING by doing it.)
But it hasn't been calm. The cumulative effect has been decidedly un-calm.
Sometimes, yes. But not always. At present people are acting as individuals who share a sense of mounting frustration. If everyone automatically started churning out the calming phrase en masse the effect would instantly polarise a situation. Way worse than at present.
I really don't agree with the calming phrase idea. Bigtime.
*hides hose behind back*
I think it has been tried
It hasn't. I'm talking about a unified behaivor.
At present people are acting as individuals who share a sense of mounting frustration.
Which is what I see as the problem.
If everyone automatically started churning out the calming phrase en masse the effect would instantly polarise a situation. Way worse than at present.
The situation is pretty polarized. And as it stands the "good guys" unintentionally escalate it.
I really don't agree with the calming phrase idea. Bigtime.
It's not to calm Zoe, it's to register dissent and MOVE ON instead of having a 100 post discussion.
This situation isn't a simple one.
So true.
Yes Fay, my paragraph is very wordy! I'm better at editing other's words than my own. Actually, at this point I think I will just send a personal note myself as a non-stompy member of the community that has never been personally involved in either a pleasant or unpleasant exchange with Zoe.
I'm such an old hippie, I just want everyone to get along. Sigh.