I felt uncomfortable, not because it doesn't happen often, but because I was afraid that my request for an enforement of etiquette would be seen as a breach of etiquette.

That is a problem.

Exactly - people shouldn't have to ask (or be afraid to ask) for the rules to be enforced. The rules should be self-enforcing. Of course that means endless discussion and voting, Buffista-style. Not that there's anything wrong with that. (See thread title.)

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I think the disconnect I'm seeing is that people don't seem to consider their responses to Zoe as rude. I'm afraid I feel differently.

Actually, I think people know their responses to her are rude - they are tired of asking nicely and getting a rude response.]

Xpost with Elena! A first! [/natter]

But when it's something truly hateful or offensive? How do you let that go by? Really, I want to know. Because if I'd been privy to some of the posts real-time, I'd have said something. And I'm pretty damn genial and tolerant.

And if people are rude to her it's after a great deal of tongue biting.

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'"No." Kat shook her head, handing im a marshmallow and willow stick. 'History's not fair. It's anything but.'" - More Kathleen Dexter

Undoubtedly I've pissed off Jon (and others) with my anti-preferential voting rant.

For the record -- naaaah. I was annoyed only insomuch as I get annoyed whenever someone doesn't see things the-only-true-way. There was misunderstanding on both sides. But we talked it out, I think we understood each other's point of view, and we moved on.

I was annoyed only insomuch as I get annoyed whenever someone doesn't see things the-only-true-way.

Jon and I are one here. I was having a true Beatles moment with "Try to see it my way...."

But we talked it out, I think we understood each other's point of view, and we moved on.

sniff sniff. I'm glad. I was worried you were mad at me.

I'm such a girl.

But when it's something truly hateful or offensive? How do you let that go by?

I don't particularly well myself. Generally, though, I think Zoe is more obnoxious than H & O.

Luckily I've been several hundred posts behind when I've been particularly bothered by posts.

I also think that we can do what I did, trepidation causing as it is. I asked. People discuss.

Yeah but no one wanted to be the mean one that said she should be warned, when people have been pissed off to the point of out-of-characterness for quite a while now. I think a good self-enforcing system would have warned her already.

Ooh, I know - what if we add an option to flag a post (any post) as offensive, for a Stompy to review, and then if your number of offensive posts is higher than x, you automatically get warned by a Stompy? Then it's less like a witch-hunt and more of a self-regulating system.

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sniff sniff. I'm glad. I was worried you were mad at me.

awwww. {{Kat}} I get caught up in the moment, but I'm always able to step back and remember that it's just a dumb ol' message board.

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Deadwood being thrown on the bonfire...