Go for the Faceless Stompy. Always better. If someone needs stompin' it's better to come from "admin" rather than the name of a person they otherwise consider a friend. Prevents resentment formenting.

Schmoker, I think the principle I follow is, if anyone says they were offended by what you wrote, apologise.

Understand the policy and will follow it.

I would like to ask a question, however.

Does anyone find it ironic (or even a little disturbing) that we all worship these shows where people who care about each other can be completely ruthless towards each other, making the most snide and disparaging comments at will, yet if someone on the board were to even sneeze cross-eyed at someone else, they have to apologize six ways from Sunday?

Think Xander or Cordy would last six days before getting booted off this board?

Almost 700 registered, and two boots, for the record.

even a little disturbing

No more disturbing than the fact that I can enjoy watching a TV character get blown away, but IRL I'm adamently opposed to the death penalty.

Fiction. Reality. Fiction. Reality. t /makes-hands-out-palms-up-scales-motion

Does anyone find it ironic (or even a little disturbing) that we all worship these shows where people who care about each other can be completely ruthless towards each other, making the most snide and disparaging comments at will, yet if someone on the board were to even sneeze cross-eyed at someone else, they have to apologize six ways from Sunday?

... Schmoker, is that a chip I see on your shoulder?

IJS. I find the death, for example, of a loved one occasionally quite interesting and useful as a fictional device for tension. That doesn't mean I'm going to go off my sister because my life's too boring.

That doesn't mean I'm going to go off my sister because my life's too boring.

Well you are obviously just no fun then.

And you don't think that equating killing your sister with having your feelings easily bruised might be a tad apples and oranges?

Not a chip. Not a fight. I'm just curious what people think. I'll act appropriately to stay on the site, but I do think that in our society their is a tendency now to let the minority rule, which kind of scares me. One person sues McDonalds for being a fat ass, so now McDonald's fries suck. That type of thing.

One person out of 600 gets offended, so speech is limited to accomodate the one over the many. That type of thing.

It's slippery slope, Schmoker. People here are many of them refugees from sites where discussion devolved into name-calling and pettiness, because the line between "don't be so sensitive" and ""I'll say what I please and don't care if I make many people uncomfortable" is a thin one, especially online. I think the cocktail party rule applies here. If I am chatting to a friend at a party and I inadvertantly offend them, I apologize to that person. I don't have to agree with them, but I do value their happiness and I want to keep the tone of the party easy and fun. We try to be as polite here as people are in real life--and sometimes, due to the flatness of posting we tend to be extra careful.

But I like being part of a community where respect for everyone's feelings and opinions one on one and not just in the aggregate is a cornerstone.

Heh. Scrappy said "cum" t /Butthead

edit: damn! She fixed it! I shoulda snagged it while I had the chance.

And, like I was saying before, the better you know someone, the easier it is to crack on them and have them not get offended. There's a lot that goes on in Natter that could seem terribly offensive, but everyone participating knows it's a joke. If you're not sure that everyone will get the joke, don't make it.