Connie, I'm glad you're posting from your gut about a sense of fair play, second chances and inclusiveness. I want that POV here.

Still, I'm glad we're taking quick action on this. I had a great online community utterly destroyed by a poster who was given all kinds of leeway until the damage was undoable. A lot of of us have seen that happen. We built our own island so it wouldn't have to happen again.

Hey everyone! Lively on here tonight. I'm SUPPOSED to be asleep but the boy just came in and I've been reading and got a little wired. I just wanted to say:

Nou, please do NOT feel bad, not even a little bit, that I came in and read the discussion surrounding me/my posts. Sure, it was disconcerting and, admitted, I actually cried a couple of tears about it because you're all so great and I really like this place. (I will, of course, disavow all knowledge of this action at any future date/time).

I'd much rather know that there's some concern about my behaviour and be allowed to address it in a straightforward manner than wonder why everyone is looking at me funnily, or typing around me, or whatever the board-posting equivalent would be. I was given the opportunity to find out there was a concern, to address that concern and to be welcomed by some people I've come to admire. That's worth a huge amount to me.

So, thanks are due you all, not guilt.

(a quiet word in private if this is entirely too sappy/gushy would be much appreciated)

Our standard is stricter - and there are too many cheap little stunts that a dedicated asshole could use to abuse this tolerance.

Yep. The death of a thousand little cuts.

Imagine that I turn into a foam-spewing rabid idiot. I get bounced.

I re-register as Michelle T. You say, oh, that can't be her, she hates when people spell her name wrong, and you let me on. I spew more hate and venom and post like crazy till I get stomped. Even just being on the board for five minutes, I can spread bad mojo pretty far.

Then I get stomped again, and I re-register as Misha. Lather, repeat, rinse.

By the third or fourth time, everyone's on edge, wondering when I'm going to re-register and start making everyone's life uncomfortable. I'm causing just as much bad feeling as I did before I was suspended, maybe more, AND I feel like I'm outwitting you, so what was the effect of the punishment? Positive reinforcement for me, the rabid idiot.

Nice is nice. But if you make it the sole operating principle for community standards, you lose.

Connie, I'm glad you're posting from your gut about a sense of fair play, second chances and inclusiveness.

It must be the Democrat in me.

t ducks, runs, hides very quickly

Connie, I'm glad you're posting from your gut about a sense of fair play, second chances and inclusiveness. I want that POV here.

Seconded.

So anyway, did I mention I'd had lunch with Angus?

I think I need Buffistas to clap their hands to prove I exist!

t crickets

I guess I'm naive.

Suela, I think the word you're looking for is rational.

Also, you don't appear to be a vengeance demon.

I think I need Buffistas to clap their hands to prove I exist!

Does buying you drinks at the upcoming F2F purely for the pleasure of watching you slounge count?

I think I need Buffistas to clap their hands to prove I exist!

Can I clap my hands on your leather clad ass?

More to the point, can I clap my hand to your leather clad ass and still retain my hand at the wrist?

Also, you don't appear to be a vengeance demon.

Damn, there goes my chance at history.