Jacqueline passed at 1pm.

Matilda was with her.

We've put her in fancy clean pajamas and are awaiting the nurse to come and make the time of death official.

We'll have some time with her body before the mortuary comes to collect her.

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Jacqueline's Funeral Service
October 16th, 11am

St. Francis Lutheran Church
152 Church Street

(In the Castro across from Safeway. One block from the Church Street Muni stop.)

This will be a relatively short (less than an hour) religious service, to honor Jacqueline's life of faith and service, and acknowledge the spiritual nourishment she came to find at St. Francis Lutheran, as well as her long, deeply held affiliation with the parish of St. John of God.

It was important to her that we had a church marriage, and that Matilda was baptized and received communion. And I want to complete those rites with her.

I realize that 11am on a Monday is not convenient, and I apologize for that. It's the only time I could line up the church, the pastor, the organist and the reception hall.

This is not a memorial.  We will have a full memorial to celebrate Jacqueline's life in the spring of 2024 on what would have been our 20th anniversary.

All are welcome, but please RSVP if you think you will attend, because there will be a reception after with food, and I need to know how many mouths to feed.

Please share this information among your communities to reach people who might be interested.

One of the things that drew Jacqueline originally to St. Francis was that they continued live streaming their service after the pandemic lockdown.  This service will live streamed through YouTube if you can't attend.  

Their link is here: https://www.youtube.com/@stfrancislutheranchurch9919

Jacqueline particularly loved her pastor's sermon on Julian of Norwich which I'll share here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BBFJ4XjTsgw

Many have asked about charities to donate to in Jacqueline's name.

She was an ardent supporter of Planned Parenthood if you're looking for something National.  Emily's List, ActBlue, The Trevor Project.

But I highly recommend you research for local charities that support at-risk Trans youth, immigrant rights and asylum and providing immediate economic aid for marginalized communities in danger of losing housing.  

Here's the link for the LiveSteam for Jacqueline's service at 11am PST.

It will be up on their YouTube channel thereafter so anybody can catch up with it later if they want.

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