I think if I ever have a real dinner party I will feel grown-up.
What's a real dinner party? We have had people, in the past when life wasn't fucking hellishly busy, over for dinner pretty regularly, but my sense is that it doesn't count.
I get confused. I remember everything. I remember too much, and... some of it's made up, and... some of it can't be quantified, and... there's secrets.
River ,'Safe'
Natter 48 Contiguous States of Denial
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Kat - Nov 14, 2006 9:54:43 am PST #181 of 10007
"I keep to a strict diet of ill-advised enthusiasm and heartfelt regret." Leigh Bardugo
bon bon - Nov 14, 2006 9:57:54 am PST #182 of 10007
It's five thousand for kissing, ten thousand for snuggling... End of list.
What's a real dinner party? We have had people, in the past when life wasn't fucking hellishly busy, over for dinner pretty regularly, but my sense is that it doesn't count.
Right, I have people over to sit on my couch and watch TV and eat takeout or some spaghetti I made. But here's what I envision when I grow up:
1. A dining room table that seats at least six (mine seats two).
2. At least three courses.
3. Wine.
4. Sparkling conversation, b/c when I grow up all my friends will be like, Amy Sedaris and junk.
flea - Nov 14, 2006 9:58:13 am PST #183 of 10007
information libertarian
Piano over keyboard, no contest (if financially feasible). Better resale value, too.
Adulthood: furniture. I knew maried professors who had a little girl when I was a grad student, and they had this dining room set that was basically patio furniture. I knew then that PhDs and progeny notwithstanding, they were not adults. (Okay, I knew that already. We used to say they should have had a terrarium instead of a daughter. We were mean, and also childless.)
Cashmere - Nov 14, 2006 10:00:54 am PST #184 of 10007
Now tagless for your comfort.
Allyson, I sometimes call my sister's voicemail and let Owen leave messages for her, in case of Very Bad Days. She saves them and will go back and listen if she's feeling particulary low.
Well, yes. Coffee's perfect mate is clearly sweet & low.
I used to be tried and true Half & Half girl, until I met my new, Coffeemate Hazelnut master.
shrift - Nov 14, 2006 10:05:37 am PST #185 of 10007
"You can't put a price on the joy of not giving a shit." -Zenkitty
What trappings define adulthood for you guys?
I don't know. Arguing with AT&T about your cable bill. Voluntarily flipping your mattress. Eating cake for dinner because you can. Nobody taking care of your problems for you.
Kat - Nov 14, 2006 10:06:27 am PST #186 of 10007
"I keep to a strict diet of ill-advised enthusiasm and heartfelt regret." Leigh Bardugo
bon bon... I was good until you got to sparkling convo.
Adulthood: durable goods. Such as a new fridge. a washer and dryer. A good mattress with a nice bedframe.
And, like bon bon, events. Having a nicely done Thanksgiving meal in your own place.
ETA I felt like a grown up the first (and maybe last) time I hosted my parents for thanksgiving.
Daisy Jane - Nov 14, 2006 10:06:49 am PST #187 of 10007
"This bar smells like kerosene and stripper tears."
how do you get the ground coffee into the filtery thing in the first place?
I pour it directly from the cannister/bag.
What trappings define adulthood for you guys?
Stuff in my name: bills, checks, credit cards savings accounts etc.
Though I often say that my favorite adult defining thing is that if I want to go get an icee and Kit Kat at 2 in the morning, or go wander the Walgreens, I can!
Hayden - Nov 14, 2006 10:08:19 am PST #188 of 10007
aka "The artist formerly known as Corwood Industries."
What trappings define adulthood for you guys?
Going to a job that I often can't stand because if I didn't, we'd be out in the street. Playing the Elmo CD for the 4th time. Turning down free tickets to live shows because I have to be up in the morning. Putting off buying a new amp until I've saved for it.
amych - Nov 14, 2006 10:10:48 am PST #189 of 10007
Now let us crush something soft and watch it fountain blood. That is a girlish thing to want to do, yes?
What trappings define adulthood for you guys?
Life insurance.
beth b - Nov 14, 2006 10:11:24 am PST #190 of 10007
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!
I'm going against everyone and say keyboard. - if you get someone that really wants to play , you can get a piano when they want one. and my main reason - getting rid of a paino or organ , even for free seems to be really difficult around here, unless it is in perfect shape. Also - I'm going to add the expense of a regular piano tuner. You want one, really. Plus , ther eare things they can do with the keyboard - like plug it into the computer and ( with the proper software) 'write ' their own music. and soundeffects might capture there interest in music as well.