Why can't people just stay in their living rooms and drink? Pass out in your own space and don't endanger your neighbors, that's what I say...

I recall at Ball State when we went to the NCAA tournament, kids spilling into the streets and having a blast. Without burning anything or destroying property. Or even running over school officials with a car. There may, however, have been some underage drinking. I think the most annoying thing to me is that every doofus who managed to get in one semester before dropping out (not to mention a BUNCH of thirty-something Midwestern males who never set foot on a college campus if it wasn't for a football game) seem to bleed scarlet & grey in this town.

I supose it doesn't help my mood that I'm sorely lacking in sleep today. Liv's still got some teething issues she's working out, and between that and DH and I both having trouble getting to sleep, topped by Owen rising at the ass crack of dawn and asking for macaroni & cheese for breakfast...

Let's just say there isn't enough coffee on the planet right now.

seem to bleed scarlet & grey in this town

A world of this. Today at work, it was declared to be a "scarlet and grey day"... the wording was "Meaning, employees are allowed to wear Scarlet and Gray for support of the Buckeyes big game, or business as usual."

So if you don't wear Buckeyes gear (which seems to include jeans for most everyone), you have to wear the normal business attire, rather than getting a dress-down day like everyone else. I almost wore orange and blue in protest, but I was worried that I would be fired. Plus my orange blouse was wrinkly.

If I wasn't afraid it would clog the interpipe I'd send you more coffee, preferrably espresso, Cash. I don't know if it's possible, but a nap when the kids nap can help some. My son was one of the ass-crack of dawn waker-uppers. Naps were the only way I survived.

Happy Belated Birthday to MiracleMan!

{{Beej}} So sorry things aren't going well with fella. Sounds like you're at a decision making point and those are tough.

Go, Nicole, you router wizard tech god! I had my daughter's ex-BF hook mine up. Mainly because I had my old desktop at the time and it didn't want to run the software. We ended up loading it on the laptop instead, but it was touch and go. He's also the one who set it up as a secure network, which I don't know if I would have figured out how to do that on my own. ::Hides electronics technician certificates in a very dark drawer::

All of you dieters, would you go on a diet for me? I just can't seem to gather the will power to do it myself. Thanks ever so.

I don't know if it's possible, but a nap when the kids nap can help some

Sometimes, I get a break--but for now, they're on different nap schedules. Liv's still taking two a day and I can't get her afternoon synched with Owen's. (And he'll skip his 40% of the time.)

So if you don't wear Buckeyes gear (which seems to include jeans for most everyone), you have to wear the normal business attire, rather than getting a dress-down day like everyone else. I almost wore orange and blue in protest, but I was worried that I would be fired. Plus my orange blouse was wrinkly

A friend DH works with went to Michigan (as did her spouse). She makes Buckeye candies and brings them in to work--but she colors them Maize & Blue. It's BRILLIANT.

but she colors them Maize & Blue. It's BRILLIANT.

So awesome. I love subverting the paradigm around here. Seriously, these people make even the most cracked-out fandom look totally logical.

Thanks so much for the additional support peeps. The Lush bath helped, but I still didn't sleep very well.

Sail, I haven't yet mentioned the possibility of Asperger traits. After the discussion here, I felt galvanized that it was the right thing to do, but suddenly things got so much better...I'm guilty of coasting because I was enjoying myself too much.

Fela did end up expressing a strong degree of sympathy and I'm certain he feels terrible.

I feel like I've been at the 'decision' point too many times. But then we have a multi-hour conversation...most of the time focused on his needs and me helping him to redefine his self-image. Me 'saving' us, because I'm afraid he won't step up to do so because he is so easily defeated.

He then tells me that he's only human and I need to be patient.

I'm weak with the not wanting to let go but it seems to be an endless series of one.more.thing. And I'm not good at letting certain things roll off me. This last incident of being so frightened and powerless really got to me.

Aww, did my Buckeye hate-on kill the thread?

Beej, I wanted to mention (when I was more awake) that I went through some similar stuff with my not!ex, and it was very crazy-making. Even now, in a much more detached relationship, he's pretty clueless. I.... don't know how much that has to do with your situation, now that I've typed it out, but I do know that I realized after the fact that situations like that were draining a lot of my emotional energy that shouldn't have been drained.

Aaaand I've ended negatively. Not my intention, just trying to share my two cents. I'ma go have more coffee now.

eta: This post was written before yours, Beej.

He then tells me that he's only human and I need to be patient.

While patience may be a virtue, none of us are saints. IJS. He needs to realize that he has to take responsibility for his problems and actively do something himself instead of expecting you to be his emotional caretaker. I think this is more the issue than whether or not you have enough patience.

I think you both hit on the nub of it. The emotional drain has caused me to do a LOT of backing up and becoming more detached...which has had its benefits but is not really what I'm looking for in a long term love...and the level of patience I have may not be enough to sustain me while he works on his stuff...which to be fair, he says he is doing.