Hey, if it means I don't have to read any more, woo and, might I add, a big hoo.

Xander ,'Sleeper'


Spike's Bitches 33: Weeping, crawling, blaming everybody else  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risque (and frisque), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


Scrappy - Jan 07, 2007 6:45:45 pm PST #9570 of 10004
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.

Posting on my blackberry from my hotel room in Minneapolis. All went well, except I forgot to pack a fricking hairbrush and had run out toa local minimart. Uncombed bedhair is not the image one wants to Convey on a business trip.


Nicole - Jan 07, 2007 6:55:07 pm PST #9571 of 10004
I'm getting the pig!

ChiKat, have a GREAT first day tomorrow!!! And yay for tribe finding.

I shall watch.

My favorite part was when Bush went into the bathroom and said, "There's already another man in here. Oh, that's just a mirror." Or something along those lines. I was laughing too much to really remember word for word.

Cookies for all who visit me! From the Italian bakery up the street. Very nummy and likely much better than anything I could attempt to bake.

I forgot to pack a fricking hairbrush

I hate when I do stuff like that, but glad there was a minimart nearby for you. Woot for easy fixes.


ChiKat - Jan 07, 2007 6:58:09 pm PST #9572 of 10004
That man was going to shank me. Over an omelette. Two eggs and a slice of government cheese. Is that what my life is worth?

Ooh, tomorrow is your first day??

Yep!! 7:30 (ack!) sharp! I gotta say, it didn't help my nerves any when my supervising teacher (my teacher at the univ.) did a sharp intake of breath and said "Oh, that's a rough one" when she found out what school I was assigned to.


SuziQ - Jan 07, 2007 6:58:25 pm PST #9573 of 10004
Back tattoos of the mother is that you are absolutely right - Ame

I'm in need of some sanity~ma. Both my supervisor and my "trainee" are going to be down from Boise and working with me all week. I am FINALLY getting some assistance since we still don't know if/when my assistant will return.

This new gal - J - is supposed to be available to take up to 20 hours of work per week. Now, I've absorbed that work into my normal 40 so backing up and adjusting processes back to the way they should be is going to be a major effort.

I've had this new supervisor for just over a year now and this is the first time she has made an effort to ask/see what I do. I know I need to just chill and show that there is a reason my project managers love me, but I'm a wreak tonight.

Needless to say, I'll be grey during the days this week.


SuziQ - Jan 07, 2007 6:59:43 pm PST #9574 of 10004
Back tattoos of the mother is that you are absolutely right - Ame

Cookies for all who visit me! From the Italian bakery up the street.

OMG, these are of the YUM!

Yep!! 7:30 (ack!) sharp!

Chikat - you will be marvelous. Best of luck, sweets.


Pix - Jan 07, 2007 7:06:30 pm PST #9575 of 10004
We're all getting played with, babe. -Weird Barbie

Yay ChiKat!


Scrappy - Jan 07, 2007 7:06:59 pm PST #9576 of 10004
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.

Chikat, I think you'll kick ass.


Nicole - Jan 07, 2007 7:08:58 pm PST #9577 of 10004
I'm getting the pig!

Suz, as much sanity~ma as I can afford to spare, dearest. I'm sure everything will go smoothly.


ChiKat - Jan 07, 2007 7:18:15 pm PST #9578 of 10004
That man was going to shank me. Over an omelette. Two eggs and a slice of government cheese. Is that what my life is worth?

Thanks, y'all! I'll report on my first day tomorrow night!

Suzi, all kinds of sanity~ma. Just do what you do marvelously every single day and you'll be fine.


WindSparrow - Jan 07, 2007 7:20:35 pm PST #9579 of 10004
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.

doesn't sound like he understands - He doesn't have to agree with you , but not understanding is another issue.

Whatever level of understanding the issue he is at, there is the basic relationship skill of feeling bad with/for your S.O. when they are feeling bad. I can imagine Daniel not understanding how important it would be for me to hear from him in similar circumstances; but, I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that if I had experienced a protracted period of worry over him, he would afterward feel bad because I had been feeling bad. His "sorry" might be only 10% apology, but it would for certain-sure be 110% sympathy. If you aren't getting much of either from Fela, it is a definite signal that he's got issues.

If his relationship incompetence is due to Asperger's or some similar disease, it is possible that with diagnosis and treatment, he might learn to adapt and improve his social skills. It is also all too likely that even with the best treatment and adaptations, he would continue to have these blind spots. Knowing if it is Asperger's or not might help you to not take such blind spots personally. But that does not really say one way or the other that you have to put up with behavior that hurts you. If knowing that these blind spots are not something personal helps you tolerate them easily, so that the good in Fela's behavior outweighs the inconvenient, troublesome, or painful, then it might be worthwhile to stick with him. If you find that this relationship is more drudgery (and I'm not talking about the sheer work of making it work) than joy (and I'm not talking about mere pleasure), then you would not be crazy to move on.

Hope that came across as helpful and caring rather than preachy.