Yay ChiKat!

Chikat, I think you'll kick ass.

Suz, as much sanity~ma as I can afford to spare, dearest. I'm sure everything will go smoothly.

Thanks, y'all! I'll report on my first day tomorrow night!

Suzi, all kinds of sanity~ma. Just do what you do marvelously every single day and you'll be fine.

doesn't sound like he understands - He doesn't have to agree with you , but not understanding is another issue.

Whatever level of understanding the issue he is at, there is the basic relationship skill of feeling bad with/for your S.O. when they are feeling bad. I can imagine Daniel not understanding how important it would be for me to hear from him in similar circumstances; but, I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that if I had experienced a protracted period of worry over him, he would afterward feel bad because I had been feeling bad. His "sorry" might be only 10% apology, but it would for certain-sure be 110% sympathy. If you aren't getting much of either from Fela, it is a definite signal that he's got issues.

If his relationship incompetence is due to Asperger's or some similar disease, it is possible that with diagnosis and treatment, he might learn to adapt and improve his social skills. It is also all too likely that even with the best treatment and adaptations, he would continue to have these blind spots. Knowing if it is Asperger's or not might help you to not take such blind spots personally. But that does not really say one way or the other that you have to put up with behavior that hurts you. If knowing that these blind spots are not something personal helps you tolerate them easily, so that the good in Fela's behavior outweighs the inconvenient, troublesome, or painful, then it might be worthwhile to stick with him. If you find that this relationship is more drudgery (and I'm not talking about the sheer work of making it work) than joy (and I'm not talking about mere pleasure), then you would not be crazy to move on.

Hope that came across as helpful and caring rather than preachy.

Sanity~ma for both Suzi and Chikat.

IOcuteN, Sammie the spaz-tastic cat just crooned to the heat register and stuck her paws through the grate moments before the furnace started pushing warm air through. Wonder if she was imploring the heat gods or just welcoming the warmth.

Best, best, best for you tomorrow, ChiKat - so exciting!

Sanity-ma to you, Suzi.

I've got to find some of the pink champagne in a pink can. (edited: OK, sparkling wine). Seriously. I don't have bitters. What is bitters? It doesn't sound good, because, well, bitter. I have to go google now...

OK, all googled and up on bitters. I'm guessing this...

A large tumbler, similarly "pinked", and filled with sparkling lemonade, results in a drink known as a Campbell. This is a pleasant and refreshing way to relieve a little of the sweetness of lemonade

is why it works so well in the pink champagne, yeah?

When I walked into the teacher's reception, it was like I had found my tribe.

Sammie the spaz-tastic cat just crooned to the heat register and stuck her paws through the grate moments before the furnace started pushing warm air through. Wonder if she was imploring the heat gods or just welcoming the warmth.

Puppycat is a heat ho, as well. She has a pillow bed in front of the heating vent in the living room. She should meet Sammie.

IOCatN, Kittenish just pounced the kitty crack pad.

I'm really and truly all set to start student teaching tomorrow morning!

Woo Hoo ChiKat! You will be great, I'm sure.

Sanity~ma for Suzi, I sure as hell hope work gets easier for you with these changes.

Hm, I relieve some of the sweetness of lemonade by not putting so much sugar in it. I want to try this Sofia stuff, mostly for the straw. Can't resist a built in straw, especially for booze.

Juice and a vitamin:

Chaika, my brother's cat in high school, lived to be 18. I think she held out the last few years for two reasons: so she could be the only cat in the house, and so she could enjoy sleeping on her very own heating pad. She spent so much time on it her fur got felted.