{{JZ}} Gah. Good luck. It's a tough thing but I hope you manage to deal with the situation--and give Hec's dad the respect and experience he needs as well as what YOUR new, little family needs. At least get some goggles to keep your pretty eyes from rolling away.
I would be there right now.
Simon ,'Objects In Space'
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Cashmere - Jan 02, 2007 9:51:37 am PST #8446 of 10004
Now tagless for your comfort.
JZ - Jan 02, 2007 9:57:47 am PST #8447 of 10004
See? I gave everybody here an opportunity to tell me what a bad person I am and nobody did, because I fuckin' rule.
At least get some goggles to keep your pretty eyes from rolling away.
Heh. Costume-party baptism; I'll be going as Mad-Eye Moody.
Fay - Jan 02, 2007 10:06:20 am PST #8448 of 10004
"Fuck Western ideologically-motivated gender identification!" Sulu gasped, and came.
Arse.
People suck.
sj - Jan 02, 2007 10:08:04 am PST #8449 of 10004
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
JZ, is it possible to have a small gathering after the baptism where you can spend time with Hec's dad and let your dad throw the big shindig he wants to have the following week?
DavidS - Jan 02, 2007 10:11:10 am PST #8450 of 10004
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
and let your dad throw the big shindig he wants to have the following week?
We don't want a big shindig at all. It's a Thing. The extended family of Greek cousins is moneyed and they have very elaborate events, and everybody keeps score and it's a conspicuous display. Some of the cousins live well beyond their means to maintain this form of hierarchical posturing. That ain't us. And the sooner her Dad adjusts his expectations on this subject, the better.
Cashmere - Jan 02, 2007 10:12:48 am PST #8451 of 10004
Now tagless for your comfort.
And the sooner her Dad adjusts his expectations on this subject, the better.
It's probably best to set those boundaries now.
Cashmere - Jan 02, 2007 10:12:57 am PST #8452 of 10004
Now tagless for your comfort.
Cashmere - Jan 02, 2007 10:14:45 am PST #8453 of 10004
Now tagless for your comfort.
Whoops. Didn't need to be said twice.
I am at this moment giving thanks for my lapsed Lutheran in-laws.
sj - Jan 02, 2007 10:16:00 am PST #8454 of 10004
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
We don't want a big shindig at all. It's a Thing. The extended family of Greek cousins is moneyed and they have very elaborate events, and everybody keeps score and it's a conspicuous display. Some of the cousins live well beyond their means to maintain this form of hierarchical posturing. That ain't us. And the sooner her Dad adjusts his expectations on this subject, the better.
Sorry, I thought it was more a matter of money and concern for your father than being against a big family gathering in general.
DavidS - Jan 02, 2007 10:16:44 am PST #8455 of 10004
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
It's probably best to set those boundaries now.
You'd have thought the extremely uncomfortable sit-down with the wedding planner would've been sufficient.
FiL: "Well, I'm not comfortable about the way the wedding is being planned."
Me: "Well, you're gonna have to suck it up. Because if it comes down to me being uncomfortable on my wedding day, or you being uncomfortable, it's gonna be you."