Also in defense of me not being gay? I can't dress myself remotely fashionably,

This is always my biggest defense, too. Well, okay, second biggest. My biggest is "The vast majority of my sexual desires are for females" which tends to be a big sign, i think.

Still, apparently having read the entire "Gossip Girls" series, not to mention "The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants," confuses people.

I REALLY thought I was getting sick last night, but woke up this morning feeling totally fine. Yay!

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I think that study must have been sponsored by the American Beef Producers Association, or something. Maybe someday being gay won't be considered a Bad Thing and they'll have to resort to "Eating soy-based foods ruins your eyesight and makes your palms hairy."

I can't tell you people how much your support on the caliper thing helps. R so fully believes he's Right on these things that I start to feel like my opinion is dumb and his is fact. I know I'm overweight. I know that every medical exam I have lists me as obese. I also know that I do 400 calories worth of aerobic exercize every day and watch what I eat, and do more exercize when I can. I'm not an athlete; I don't need the exact data (as if calipers give you exact data).

On the other hand, over lunch he indicated he was relenting, and took it with a wry smile when I called him a control enthusiast.

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We are BUILT TO HOLD FAT.

And I do a great job at that I tell ya.

I'm glad to hear he is relenting. The obese thing we have already established as absurd. Although I am not anywhere near my ideal weight per charts, I know from past history that I am overweight in that range too. I have the tiny bones. Our health and how we feel is the only reliable gauge.

I don't get trying to get other adults to bend to our will. It's nice when both Brendon and I are on the same health/diet kick, but it rarely works out that way. I may be on raw fruit and jogging while he is on pizza and yard work. Or he may be on Atkins and playing ball daily while I am in wine and books mode.

Calipers are ricockulous in my book, but some people like em. You can't want for other people. You can't quit smoking for other people. You can't end stupid relationships for other people. People can only do for themselves what works for them. I don't even like being in the position where I have to tell kids what to do. I'm so very unlikely to try and tell an adult what to do.

I'm likely to get all ranty soon, so I'll stop.

Cashmere honey, how is your back this morning?

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Fit and thin are not remotely the same thing. I'm really boggled at this - I can see the original suggestion, sure, but to keep pushing at you about it? I don't even know what to say to that, except it makes me really freaking uncomfortable and angry on your behalf. I'm glad he's starting to let go, but I hope he has some glimmer of why it's so incredibly inappropriate.

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My MIL often makes a fuss over how "nice and thin" my SIL is. MIL is a large woman, that's where DH gets it, and she thinks thin is the super ideal. I jump on her when she says that shit. SIL smokes 3 packs a day, drinks, has spent so many hours in the sun that she needs leather soap. She is thin because she is about the most unhealthy person you ever met. I need and want to lose weight, but I wouldn't want to switch bodies with her for nothin'.

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I'm a little sensitive on this with my upcoming trip to resort land with my ex-boss - she's freaking out dieting and she's a svelte size 4. And very fashion forward. It's a lot to live up to.

But it should be very fun, once I banish the demons. We had a coversation about what to pack yesterday:

"So, we'll want to do really nice one night - dresses, heels, the works."

I agree.

"And then one night super slutty. And that leaves one for...casual sexy."

I'ma end up better dressed (and with a lot more effort) on vacation than I ever am at home.

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Brenda, you do really nice, slutty, and casual sexy very well. Not to worry.

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while I am in wine and books mode.

Best mode ever.

You can't want for other people. You can't quit smoking for other people. You can't end stupid relationships for other people. People can only do for themselves what works for them.

Which, while I occasionally see this as a design flaw, is for the best. Unless I am right and they are wrong. Obviously.

And, to save time, please refer to my rant number 832 "My anorexic and messed up SiL needs to back off the thin but not sickly neicelet. And by 'thin but not sickly,' I mean thin because she's a really thin young woman. But not so thin her period has stopped and she's jeopardizing her health. Which my SiL would prefer." here. It can be found in Bitches 11, 14, 19, 27 (there was a dry spell), 31, and 32.

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Brenda's the person who turned up in a Hello Kitty corset, meaning she can do CUTE and sexy. ijs

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Unless I am right and they are wrong. Obviously.

Duh, I had meant to add unless Cass says so to that.

Hi Todd! How are you feeling? Work still munching you from the bottom?

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