And the thing is, I don't think that they would ever see the other side.

Would too.

Ummmmmmm.

I imagine if I were to cut off communication with one person right now, they would not understand and it would be completely out fo the blue. "But...but...but..." And the thing is, I don't think that they would ever see the other side.

This. I'm sure this person thinks I'm being completely unreasonable. I say don't do this, it will hurt me. Then you do it- strike one, you lie to me about it-strike two, you let me find out you did it in the most painful way possible-strike three. Game over. There's other issues too, it's just that one thing that pushed it too far, but I'm sure she thinks that I just freaked out about something that's no big.

but I'm sure she thinks that I just freaked out about something that's no big.

points to my nose, points to DJ's nose. Point. Repeat.

No ofense to those of us who are with the ovaries and whatnot, but there was a VERY good reason most my friends in high school and college were guys.

Happy Birthdays (belated and otherwise): Julia, Hil and DJ!

I'm sure she thinks that I just freaked out about something that's no big.

I've been on both sides of this. One of my suitemates from college will no longer talk to any of us, and none of us really have a clue as to why. I sent a birthday/xmas card for a few years, but made myself a promise that I wouldn't expect anything back. On the other side, I cut off communication with a friend who still probably thinks she did nothing wrong, despite having it explained to her at length both the first time she did it, and when she blew her second chance.

ION, I can not wait to go home and clean out the fridge of all the leftovers, so I can fill it with other good things.

On the other side, I cut off communication with a friend who still probably thinks she did nothing wrong, despite having it explained to her at length both the first time she did it, and when she blew her second chance.

Ha! Me too, seriously. This girl has done pretty much the same thing 4 times, exactly the same thing one time before and still...

I just wish I could discuss the matter and see if there's anything salvagable. But I'm not being given the chance.

At what point do I become a stalker?

I have some friends who cut me off, though I think they think it's the other way around. I know another friend said they'd be happy to hear from me, one time (I was posting in LJ about how I knew it was one of their birthdays, and that was weird, thinking about them, but not having talked to htem in years). But...on the one hand, I'd love to hear from them. On the other hand, I'm not sure I could get over how hurt and offended I was by them, and the fact that we can never ever have the same relationship again. I'm afraid I'd continue to hold it against them. So...perhaps better that I only hear third hand info. Though it was hard seeing pictures of one of their babies, elsewhere...

This girl has done pretty much the same thing 4 times, exactly the same thing one time before and still...

After the second time, my girl donated money to George Bush's re-election campaign in my name as her revenge, knowing that I'd never want my name associated with GWB. I'd bet folding money that she thinks of this not as revenge, but as a joke. Giving me yet another example of why she and I cannot be friends because we cannot understand one another.

It's a fine line between wanting to salvage and stalking. That said, I don't know.

I've been cut off with no real explanation and the thoughts of "But! But! But!" Eventually, I just had to let it go. They had some reason that was enough for them to sayonara our friendship, and while I may never know what that reason was, I had to stop trying to understand because chances are, I wouldn't.

Eh.

This is why we should all live in caves.

They had some reason that was enough for them to sayonara our friendship, and while I may never know what that reason was, I had to stop trying to understand because chances are, I wouldn't.

This is wisdom, but sad and hard to accept wisdom.