I have a couple of people like that, but I don't consider that really cutting them off, just not really making an effort to keep up with them. Those I wouldn't mind hearing from.
Yes, it's terribly simple. The good guys are always stalwart and true, the bad guys are easily distinguished by their pointy horns or black hats, and, uh, we always defeat them and save the day. No one ever dies, and everybody lives happily ever after.
Giles ,'Conversations with Dead People'
Spike's Bitches 33: Weeping, crawling, blaming everybody else
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risque (and frisque), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Daisy Jane - Nov 27, 2006 6:14:30 am PST #3266 of 10004
"This bar smells like kerosene and stripper tears."
Aims - Nov 27, 2006 6:16:21 am PST #3267 of 10004
Shit's all sorts of different now.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY DJ!!
I've had to cut people out of my life. And there are others that I would like to cut out of my life, but for other reasons, can't. I just limit my contact with them as much as possible. It just gets to a point where if the contributions to my life are more negative than positive, there's no reason to keep that negativity in my life. Sucks.
Connie Neil - Nov 27, 2006 6:24:16 am PST #3268 of 10004
brillig
It just gets to a point where if the contributions to my life are more negative than positive, there's no reason to keep that negativity in my life.
Do you ever get the impression that those people see a positive for themselves in the relationship--and more than a selfish positive, such as "I love her, she's such a wonderful audience for my egomania"? I suspect there's a fine line between actively trying to maintain communication and being perceived as a stalker.
Daisy Jane - Nov 27, 2006 6:27:46 am PST #3269 of 10004
"This bar smells like kerosene and stripper tears."
Do you ever get the impression that those people see a positive for themselves in the relationship--and more than a selfish positive, such as "I love her, she's such a wonderful audience for my egomania"?
Not Aimee, but yeah, I think those people think the relationship is a positive one for them, though it probably is selfish even if they don't think of it that way.
Aims - Nov 27, 2006 6:31:34 am PST #3270 of 10004
Shit's all sorts of different now.
Most defintely, connie. I imagine if I were to cut off communication with one person right now, they would not understand and it would be completely out fo the blue. "But...but...but..." And the thing is, I don't think that they would ever see the other side.
Vortex - Nov 27, 2006 6:32:07 am PST #3271 of 10004
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman
It's not me, is it?
Aims - Nov 27, 2006 6:35:51 am PST #3272 of 10004
Shit's all sorts of different now.
It's totally you.
Dammit, Vortex.
SuziQ - Nov 27, 2006 6:35:51 am PST #3273 of 10004
Back tattoos of the mother is that you are absolutely right - Ame
And the thing is, I don't think that they would ever see the other side.
Would too.
Ummmmmmm.
Daisy Jane - Nov 27, 2006 6:44:07 am PST #3274 of 10004
"This bar smells like kerosene and stripper tears."
I imagine if I were to cut off communication with one person right now, they would not understand and it would be completely out fo the blue. "But...but...but..." And the thing is, I don't think that they would ever see the other side.
This. I'm sure this person thinks I'm being completely unreasonable. I say don't do this, it will hurt me. Then you do it- strike one, you lie to me about it-strike two, you let me find out you did it in the most painful way possible-strike three. Game over. There's other issues too, it's just that one thing that pushed it too far, but I'm sure she thinks that I just freaked out about something that's no big.
Aims - Nov 27, 2006 6:47:34 am PST #3275 of 10004
Shit's all sorts of different now.
but I'm sure she thinks that I just freaked out about something that's no big.
points to my nose, points to DJ's nose. Point. Repeat.
No ofense to those of us who are with the ovaries and whatnot, but there was a VERY good reason most my friends in high school and college were guys.