I also feel wicked cranky that in southern California it seems to be okay to RSVP to a party and then just not show up and not call.
Are you talking Evite RSVPs or phone/paper ones? I think the idea of showing up unRSVPed to a paper invitation is rude. I think the idea of RSVPing in any form and then not showing without at least an apology afterwards is rude.
So it seems I'm devaluing Evites at least a little. I should be more consistent.
When I was home we were doscussing whether answering an email on your bklackberry while having dinner with someone is rude. I would thinkl the same rules as a cellphone call would apply.
We missed the candy store and A. I should fix that tomorrow... Mmm, candy...
Oooh! Yes. Yes you should. And tell Puppycat to back off of the Kittenish food.
Speaking of candy - has anyone seen the wax fangs (red wax lips with the white wax fangs) in any of the chain-type stores? I found them in Portland with Cass but only at the specialty candy store. I'd like to find some locally but have only found the big wax lips so far. No fangs.
Maybe I have a stick up my ass, but I think it's important to know what accepted manners are before deciding which ones I am going to ignore or change.
I think it is important, both to know the rules of etiquette and then actively decide which you are accepting and following and which you are not. Informed consent of a sort.
I hated being made to sit down and write thank you notes as a kid but I am glad now that I know about it and I think it is an oft overlooked art of just stopping and acknowledging that someone thought of you and bought or did something for you. That said? I am heading to hell on the road that those good intentions have paved at times. My procrastination wrecks havoc on my correspondence at times.
I also feel wicked cranky that in southern California it seems to be okay to RSVP to a party and then just not show up and not call.
Party foul in my book. If you say you are coming? They you really need to clearly say if you are later not coming.
What do y'all think?
Hate that, especially when it's for a special occasion.
And may I add, I have done the very thing I am bitching about (RSVPed and not shown up) because I kinda suck. Not often though.
And tell Puppycat to back off of the Kittenish food.
I've started locking Kittenish and her food in my room for about twenty minutes when she's hungry so she can eat without the pudgy thief trying to pull a fast one. If she is nibbling, then I can put the bowl on my coffee table and only let her up to eat.
And why do my cats behave better for you than for me?
Speaking of candy - has anyone seen the wax fangs (red wax lips with the white wax fangs) in any of the chain-type stores? I found them in Portland with Cass but only at the specialty candy store. I'd like to find some locally but have only found the big wax lips so far. No fangs.
My fangs bring all the boys to the Portland.
I'm here! Jimmy is running around showing off. It's so cute!
I am awful at thank you notes, but better at thank you emails.
If it's a large party that I said I'd attend, I don't worry too much about not showing up for whatever reason, but I'll apologize later. If it's a dinner party or brunch or whatever, obviously a smaller crowd, then I think it's necessary to inform the host that something has come up and I won't be able to make it.
I love the Maybe option with Evite. Very handy.
ETA: Hi sj!
And may I add, I have done the very thing I am bitching about (RSVPed and not shown up) because I kinda suck.
I have done this. I have failed to thank people for very lovely things and gestures. Basically I am Miss Manners worst nightmare at times.