Am I supposed to be changing my clothes a lot? Is that the helpful thing to do?

Anya ,'Storyteller'


Spike's Bitches 32: I think I'm sobering up.  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risque (and frisque), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


Stephanie - Oct 20, 2006 9:03:22 am PDT #8001 of 10000
Trust my rage

Do you know how it got in?

We reached the lowest temp I've ever seen here - 71 - last night. I opened up all the doors to get the cool air in the house. I think they might have gotten in then. It's hard to believe they were quiet all night, but the 2nd one didn't appear until about an hour after the first and I never heard a thing.

Honestly, worse than cleaning up the dead one and all the feathers was trying to save the 2nd one. The dogs were trying to get it, it kept banging into the window and the ledge was not high enough to protect it from the dogs. I cna't believe the dogs actually obeyed me. I was screaming as loud/authoritatively as I could. Sebastian got a feather or two, but I got him away from the bird and into the back in time. I then opened the front doors and poked the poor bird with a Swiffer until he left.


Connie Neil - Oct 20, 2006 9:04:19 am PDT #8002 of 10000
brillig

I don't see that there's a benefit to having more than a few thousand dollars in my checking account since that money just sits there doing nothing at all

Gosh.


sj - Oct 20, 2006 9:07:27 am PDT #8003 of 10000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

It is very helpful to work toward getting on the same financial page (each coming to the middle from different directions) before your finances are actually totally together. We did baby steps for that- even before we lived together, I think, we each contributed to a household account that would cover groceries (and then later utilities and rent) and we contributed to it sort of proportionally to our individual incomes. Then we eventually just had the one checking account and one credit card.

Right now we have a joint savings account, but we pay bills separately and reconcile the finances at the end of the month. It is the easiest way right now for us to negotiate about money. We'll merge our finances more eventually.


Glamcookie - Oct 20, 2006 9:07:49 am PDT #8004 of 10000
I know my own heart and understand my fellow man. But I am made unlike anyone I have ever met. I dare to say I am like no one in the whole world. - Anne Lister

GF and I are both good about saving. We also both paid off our cars in the last year and plan to drive them into the ground. Of course, we are both fortunate enough to be in good-paying jobs with excellent benefits (including stock bennies, which actually pay out good money). I try to sock as much away as possible so that someday if I don't have this job or want to change jobs (read: make less money), I can do it without too much financial hardship.

I should come in and read this on those frequent occasions when my job is sucking out my soul. It helps to remember that I stay so that I can do what I want in my off-time.


brenda m - Oct 20, 2006 9:08:48 am PDT #8005 of 10000
If you're going through hell/keep on going/don't slow down/keep your fear from showing/you might be gone/'fore the devil even knows you're there

Gosh.

Yeah.


Nora Deirdre - Oct 20, 2006 9:11:31 am PDT #8006 of 10000
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)

Right now we have a joint savings account, but we pay bills separately and reconcile the finances at the end of the month. It is the easiest way right now for us to negotiate about money. We'll merge our finances more eventually.

Whatever works is awesome. Because- hard.

I am bored and restless today and prone to babbling and storytelling. So, er, don't mean to be preaching or anything.


Ginger - Oct 20, 2006 9:11:35 am PDT #8007 of 10000
"It didn't taste good. It tasted soooo horrible. It tasted like....a vodka martini." - Matilda

It's no longer a 401k, it was rolled over 15 years ago into the annuity.

As I understand it, the costs of an annuity are very front-end loaded, so once you've had one that long, you need to keep it in an annuity.

Birds in the house never seem to understand that the door is the way out.


Deena - Oct 20, 2006 9:12:09 am PDT #8008 of 10000
How are you me? You need to stop that. Only I can be me. ~Kara

Heh. I'm goshin' with Connie.

I have a student loan that is beyond insane and just sits there. I actually defaulted on it once, and I've about hit the end of the possible deferments. Even with the minimum payments (where you pay what they think you can afford for 25 years and then forgive the rest) I can't afford it. I'm just hoping we've got the mortgage under control and me able to work more before we have to start paying on it again.


Nora Deirdre - Oct 20, 2006 9:13:26 am PDT #8009 of 10000
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)

stupid student loans. Leave Deena alone!

Pretty Deena.

Deena, can I go home now?


Connie Neil - Oct 20, 2006 9:14:13 am PDT #8010 of 10000
brillig

once you've had one that long, you need to keep it in an annuity.

Piffle. It's better than nothing, but when it's all you've got, it's nice to have more.