If you were only a boring and emotionally unengaging writer, I'd have written back ages ago!

Thanks! And don't worry about not getting back to me. Seriously. New moms have a genuine excuse for anything.

ION, it looks like the FBI has cleared me, I"m not a threat and I start work on Nov 13th. Now I just have to finalize daycare stuff.

That's a well-worn fear of my own.

Yep, my mother used money like a club. Still does. Fortunately, I am financially independent from them now. It's a great motivator to get your shit together, to know that you don't have to ask your parents for money.

it looks like the FBI has cleared me

It was weirdly satisfying to pass my background check when I did customer support for the Postal Service. Though that satisfaction was countered wtih "dammit, now they have my fingerprints on file."

By the time I finish reading, I have no time to post. Feeble attempt to catch up follows:

The discussion concerning that low down dirty scoundrel Nic amuses me greatly. I kicked that bastard to the curb 20 years ago. He seduced me a couple times during the past decade, but I’m confident at this point that he no longer holds any magnetism for me at all.

Huh. I just got a raise. A helluva big raise.

Yay for the recognition of Raq’s worth.

I’m looking forward to reading the update from vw from her Harvard visit. Go vw!

Good luck on the promotion Daisy!

Good luck with the interview Brenda!

{{SA}} Sorry about the unwanted mom advice. You’ll both get past this point in your relationship. Just practice, yes mother, yes mother, you are so right mother. Then continue to live your life. And what Cashmere said.

I am completely fiscally irresponsible. My sister now pays my bills for me. I’m sure she has heart failure as she enters all the charges. She is remarkably restrained in not yelling at me.

I gave in and turned the heat on this morning. So far it isn't helping.

It's a great motivator to get your shit together, to know that you don't have to ask your parents for money.

Very true.

I am completely fiscally irresponsible. My sister now pays my bills for me. I’m sure she has heart failure as she enters all the charges. She is remarkably restrained in not yelling at me.

For this reason I will one day have an accountant.

Huzzah Raq!

ION, I continue to be bitchly and sullen, except that at least Matilda is sleeping and eating peacefully today and my guts are staying nicely in place (turned out not to be an infection, just my incision getting irritated by the glue). I'm just tired of dealing with the personnel/benefits people at work and finding out, over and over, that I'm just screwed WRT maternity leave.

Even though I have well over 600 hours of accumulated vacation and sick leave, I can only use limited amounts of either, and neither one will alter the end date of my disability eligibility (plus, not eligible for a CA State program that's supposed to allow for an additional 6 weeks of disability -- except that I'm a state university employee and my uni has severe and severely fucked budget restrictions).

No matter how the personnel lady and I try to finagle it (and she really is trying, really hard), there's no way I can stay home past Jan. 24, which puts Matilda at just 4 months old, i.e., the most wildly expensive age imaginable for day care. If I don't go back to work, she and I are uninsured plus we flat-out can't survive without my paycheck. If I do go back to work, barring some miraculous day care situation flopping into our laps from heaven, a bare minimum of 25% of my take-home will go to day care, and probably rather more.

So fucking tired of stressing incessantly about money, and especially about stressing about money and time when I have another 3 months of paid leave theoretically in reserve, I'm just not allowed to use it. Bah!

For this reason I will one day have an accountant.

and their job is to make sure the bills get paid and STFU.

Sonusexmachina is here building computers for ND.

Kristin, you do realize that, uncapitalized, your friend looks like "Sonu Sex Machina."

and their job is to make sure the bills get paid and STFU.

Exactly!

So sorry for your stress, JZ. I hope it works out.