The Reason You Look Ugly In Photos Is Because You Are Ugly
OOH, OOH, this one!
I have taught myself, through long hard trial and much error, to try to look at photos with someone else's eyes. How many times have you seen someone freak about a totally cute picture of themselves? Because their eye goes instantly to the mole, or the bulge, or the way their head looks four sizes to big (in their view), and totally skips over the way that shirt is boobtacular and the color makes their eyes look sexy as all get-out. And it's hard, and I have to consciously avert my eyes from some things, but the important thing is that other people
do not see what you do.
So, back in the land of cognitive therapy. What methods do folks use to turn off their tapes? What scripts do you refer to? What alerts you that you're hearing a tape? How do you get beyond it?
I stop a moment and acknowledge that I'm feeling down/distressed/stressed out/sad/angry and think about what triggered it and where that trigger came from and then accept it and move on with the plan to not react that way again.
What scripts do you refer to? What alerts you that you're hearing a tape?
The familiarity of the words. The fact that, like Aimee says, if I stop a moment, I realize I'm stressed or tired or upset.
Turning them off usually requires really unhealthy behavior, like ignoring them and distracting myself with a book or the Internet or TV, and usually comfort food and additional cigarettes. And talking to Stephen, which is not unhealthy, but doesn't always help because I have this *other* tape that tells me The People Who Love You Don't Know What They're Talking About, and Will Say Anything to Make You Feel Better.
Okay, now I think I have to go back to therapy.
Turning them off usually requires really unhealthy behavior, like ignoring them and distracting myself with a book or the Internet or TV, and usually comfort food and additional cigarettes.
This isn't unhealthy...well, except for the cigarettes :). Distraction is a well-known effective skill.
I have three therapists! Almost as many as vw!!
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Signs you are addicted to caffiene: Taking a shot of coffee with a Diet Coke chaser
So, back in the land of cognitive therapy. What methods do folks use to turn off their tapes?
My therapist keeps telling me that when I am thinking these things, I am not taking in all availible information, so I try to concentrate on reasons why the tape is not true. As far as realizing I am playing the tape, I am usually having at least a mini meltdown before I realize what I am doing. I am still working on that part.
I've gotten as far as making the cannellini bean dip and realized that I am out of plastic wrap. Back out into the real world.
How do you get beyond it?
Gin? Ativan?
I. Love. vw.
I've gotten as far as making the cannellini bean dip and realized that I am out of plastic wrap.
Huh. I stopped putting plastic wrap in my cannellini bean dip when the party guests started choking on it....
Huh. I stopped putting plastic wrap in my cannellini bean dip when the party guests started choking on it....
Bwah! I needed that laugh. I need the plastic wrap to put over the pretty antipasto platter I am making so I can put it in the fridge and start on the bolognese. I can't leave it in the container it came in because I am making it myself, otherwsise I totally would.
