Maybe going to visit her isn't such a great idea. I don't know. There's time to think about it. She's so angry and attack-y right now.
I am trying not to be upset, but I am.
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Nora Deirdre - Oct 02, 2006 4:52:45 am PDT #5676 of 10000
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)
vw bug - Oct 02, 2006 4:57:35 am PDT #5677 of 10000
Mostly lurking...
I am trying not to be upset, but I am.
I'd be surprised if that plan was working. This stuff is really hard to deal with. And the thing is, she probably has no idea to what extent it's getting to you. I know I never did until I dealt with it with J. And J didn't until she dealt with it with another friend. It's meant to be self-destructive, but it isn't just that. But, she probably can't see that right now. We're here, though. And talk through it as much as you need to. Mwah!
Connie Neil - Oct 02, 2006 5:43:16 am PDT #5678 of 10000
brillig
My friend is still alive, as I just got an extremely nasty email from her describing how her life sucks and how I can't understand her and she can't understand me.
Are there other signs that say there's potentially illness involved in this (I may have missed them)? She may have decided to edit people and things she's decided are extraneous to her life, a hurtful process when you're not expecting it.
Nora Deirdre - Oct 02, 2006 5:44:55 am PDT #5679 of 10000
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)
I think there's depression involved, certainly.
Nora Deirdre - Oct 02, 2006 5:55:35 am PDT #5680 of 10000
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)
Maybe I am being stupid about this, when it's just that she doesn't want to be my friend after ~20 years. It certainly could be as simple as that. Who knows? Certainly I don't.
Topic!Cindy - Oct 02, 2006 5:57:24 am PDT #5681 of 10000
What is even happening?
What you've shared here reads like depression to me, Nora, from your first post on the subject, on.
vw bug - Oct 02, 2006 6:00:28 am PDT #5682 of 10000
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From what Nora's explained, I would definitely say there is depression going on here, but I also really wonder about some BPD. This is VERY BPD behavior.
Connie Neil - Oct 02, 2006 6:05:01 am PDT #5683 of 10000
brillig
when it's just that she doesn't want to be my friend after ~20 years. It certainly could be as simple as that
I may just be oversensitive since it happened to me last year.
Amy - Oct 02, 2006 6:05:13 am PDT #5684 of 10000
Because books.
Maybe I am being stupid about this, when it's just that she doesn't want to be my friend after ~20 years.
It sounds like depression to me, Nora. Serious depression. I'm so sorry you're going through this. It can be hard to deal with a friend you care for and worry about when they're pushing you away, and being nasty about it. Even when you know (or suspect) it's the illness talking, it hurts.
{{{Nora}}}
vw bug - Oct 02, 2006 6:06:44 am PDT #5685 of 10000
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Nora, you may want to get the book I Hate You; Don't Leave Me from the library or something. It may help you better know how to deal with all of this.
Here's the amazon link: [link]