Just announcing the situation can be helpful. "Look, I'm in a mood right now where I'm getting way more pissed off than is reasonable. We need to talk about things tomorrow, because tonight it's just not going to work."
Nope. Didn't work. "But, why? What can you do about it? Is it this? Is it that?" Don't get me wrong, he is so very wonderful and he really means well, but he doesn't get it, and I don't think we have been together long enough for him to have figured all of this out yet. Especially since, in the past when I was this bad we weren't living together so I would just stay away for a few days.
Really, bed now.
{{TCG & SJ}} I hope you have a nice weekend.
Happy Woody Anniversay Jess & DH! heeheeheeheehee
Damn. Zito had a no-no through 7. Lost that in the 8th. Lost the shutout in the 9th. Oy. And yet...his 100th win as an Oakland Athletic. Only the fourth pitcher to do that after Catfish Hunter, Vida Blue and Dave Stewart.
Is anyone around? I'm having a major freakout about something that happened at work today (discovered a co-worker's mistake, which part of me feels I should have caught earlier, and that is going to cause me even more work when I don't have time to deal with it.)
Heya. Glad someone's around. Anyhow, right before I leave for the day, I discover that the document a co-worker gave me to edit and publish a few weeks back was the wrong document. In other words, she was working on an older version, and it didn't have some legally mandated changes incorporated into it. It's a training manual, and I discover the error when I'm comparing the teacher's notes (which I'm now editing) to it.
Part of me is thinking that it is her responsibility to make sure the changes were in there. The other part of me thinks I should have known to check, especially since this co-worker has been known to screw up before.
Yeah, rationally, I know that only a some of the responsibility rests on me, but I'm still freaking out. I'm exhausted, but can't fall asleep. This is too reminiscent of some situations from my old job. I'm also not looking forward to doing the cleanup on this project, as I'm already strapped for time.
I get the sleepless stress thing. But, really, ultimately, you aren't responsible for doing someone else's job.
Don't freak out, Anne.
The main thing is that (a) the co-worker made the original error; and (b) you
did
catch it before it went out. It sucks that you didn't catch it earlier, but those two factors take the onus off you.
Also, it means you did your function in the error trapping process. It has layers for a reason and you did catch it at your level. Ideally earlier, but still, it's caught.
Anne, there's only so much you can be expected to check for, and this degree of fuck up is beyond that level.
