Honestly, on my first time over for "gaming with the boys" on Saturdays, I had just as much fun hanging with you afterwards as I did gaming. Maybe more.

Flirty McFliterstein. :)

It's cool, not your fault. I'm just touchy.

BTW- Thanks to Aimee, for very kindly pointing out that being on a hair trigger is probably not the best time to parse other people's words for meaning.

Thanks to Aimee, for very kindly pointing out that being on a hair trigger is probably not the best time to parse other people's words for meaning.

Thank my therapist. I do every time I write her a check.

Ah, the Empress is the mighty maker of understanding.

THis is why I'm studying to be a social worker.

And then, I shall bill you all! Muahahahahahaha!

Totally kidding. No billing, I promise.

Come back! If no one talks to me I hafta go to bed!

I'm reading Farscape recaps and downloading Conviction episodes, because I miss me some JAR.

And then, I shall bill you all!

t /Footballers Wife

I edit cause I got my slur on wrong.

now for bed. Talked to matt - and he had good stuff to talk about - but everytime he complained - because of haveing to get up early tomorrow, I told him my problems were so much more important. shorthand for the life in front of me is the most important.

beth, I'd love to have a plumber in my neighborhood, but would rather not find out the hard way in which you found out. I hope your hand feels better, today.

Cashmere, how's your poor sister?

Daisy Jane, that sort of disagreement is so hurtful. I hope you're feelign more at ease, this morning. Sometimes, I wonder if boys-night and/or girls-night isn't just a convenient catch phrase or shorthand for how you phrased it further down in your first post:

I've been thinking about the need to be away from your significant other, whether because you've been around each other too much lately or because you need to establish yourself as a whole other person again, and I suppose that could be justification for a "boys night out." But even then, wouldn't it just be easier to say, "I need to get away from youandme for a while, you could probably use the break too why don't you go grab that comic book/yarn/bath crap you've been eyeing and have yourself a night while I go out." Of course that would mean that you've been holding up your end of the relationship bargain, and not neglecting her feelings.

It can be hard for some people to say, "I want to do this with them tonight, on my own," because they feel like they're saying, "I don't want to be with you," and assume you're going to hear it that way, and the "don't want to be with you," isn't their main goal, it's just a facet of doing their own thing. It's hard to find a non-hurtful way to say, "I just want to do my own thing, tonight."

Anyone else have the "which route do you take and why don't you go my way which is obviously infinitely more better?" arguement?

Hee. Not too much any more, but I am tempted to say any argument we've ever had has either been the above, or a variation on, "I'm mad at you, because I think you're mad at me."

I just do the whole arguement

I don't know why you are going this way, it is the harder way. ,I would do it different. you just felt like it and Im not driving so I'll be quiet now

Whee! I do too, now, beth. This is one for the plus column, where long relationships are concerned. You find yourself on the path to argument, but then take a look at the horizon and landmarks, and realize you're not trail-blazing. You're not even walking on a path. You're on a paved road, four lanes wide to a place neither of you wants to end up, so you reverse direction yourself.