Dani, I only recently learned that it's considered polite to make a post commenting in their journal that you friended them and why.

Eh, some people consider it polite, but I think they are weird people. I really tend to not bother unless they have a stated policy. Of course, normally, I'm adding someone who has added me. And I'd say only two or three people have ever dropped me a line to say they've added me, and I thought it very strange of them to do so.

I usually post if I have something to say, but mostly start lurking to see if there's enough to start a conversation with. Then I introduce myself in my first comment.

(I'm Ro-Astarte over there, Dani, feel free to friend me if you're so inclined.

A number of people have friended me whom I don't know and who don't ever comment. I think it's the fic-posting thing. ::shrugs::

Most of my more personal entries are friends-locked.

I'd say only two or three people have ever dropped me a line to say they've added me, and I thought it very strange of them to do so.

That's interesting. I'm like Astarte -- I tend to try to comment on an entry where I feel like I have something to say. But if there isn't one, or if it's someone who I know will have no idea who I am, I will do the "Hi, I just friended you, hope you don't mind" thing.

I'm just starting to get more people adding me than I add, largely because I'm basically at reading capacity. Yesterday I posted an entry saying (slightly more nicely) that I wasn't adding people back who didn't comment and who I didn't know from elsewhere. But I've been friendslocking pretty much everything but fic and memes lately, so I might just be in a shy, weird phase.

Dani, I'm arliss on LJ. Sometimes I've just mentioned that I'm there and I've friended somebody. I know I go weeks sometimes without checking my flist. I'd not have known about a recent spook if someone on my flist hadn't mentioned him. He's still there on my list, btw. Did anyone find the goo-scraper to get rid of him?

He's still there on my list, btw. Did anyone find the goo-scraper to get rid of him?

There was a thing in News about this; I think they made it so if you ban someone, s/he is also off your f'list forever. Not sure how it works, because I currently (thank god and knock wood) have no need for troll destroyage.

Dani, I'm serasempre on LJ.

Bev, you had a troll?

Ewwwwww.

I think he more or less friended the "buffistas" as a group. He hasn't popped up in reply to any of my posts, so I'ma not poke him with a stick, so long as he doesn't. I friends lock anything I don't want widely read (when I can remember how, now I'm embarrassed again), and there have been a couple things I made 'eyes-only' but for the most part, what I post is general consumption.

Deena, insent shortly.

They don't actually bug you in your journal, so it's kind of limited trollage, Deb. These are people with nothing better to do than friending everyone in the world and waiting for people to freak out and ask to be removed. I have one, but his username is pretty innocuous so I'm just waiting 'til he gets bored.

I'm lucky, though. I know someone who's really active in feminist and liberal boards, and she keeps getting friended by creeps who call themselves things like rape_is_fun and kkk_krewe.