Dani, I only recently learned that it's considered polite to make a post commenting in their journal that you friended them and why.
Fred: The size and depth of the wound indicate a female vampire. Harmony: Or gay! Fred: Um…it doesn't really work like that.
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A place for Buffistas to discuss, beta and otherwise deal and dish on their non-fan fiction projects.
Deena - Mar 18, 2004 10:50:55 am PST #3579 of 10001
How are you me? You need to stop that. Only I can be me. ~Kara
deborah grabien - Mar 18, 2004 10:51:27 am PST #3580 of 10001
It really doesn't matter. It's just an opinion. Don't worry about it. Not worth the hassle.
Totally accepted. And Dani, I'm debg, so friend me if you like, and I'll friend you right back again.
§ ita § - Mar 18, 2004 10:51:55 am PST #3581 of 10001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
Sometimes you meet nice new people that way -- I have at least one person completely unconnected to the rest of my life who friended me because, I think, of Brust and the martial arts. Turns out she's fen, and we have a fair amount in common, so I friended her back.
Others, NSM.
Lyra Jane - Mar 18, 2004 10:51:57 am PST #3582 of 10001
Up with the sun
What Betsy said. It's considered nice to comment shortly after you friend someone so they know why this strange person wants to read about them, but I've skipped that a few times, and had people skip it a few times in friending me. Edit: Massively x-posted.
Lyra Jane - Mar 18, 2004 10:57:18 am PST #3583 of 10001
Up with the sun
you wouldn't want everyone in all the communities you are a member of to read.
I thought that, while a friends-locked entry in a community could be read by anyone in the community, friends-locked entries in personal journals could only be read by people on your personal f'list, so I don't need to worry about all 700 members of buffy_icons knowing about my therapy appointment from the community's friends page.
But yes, filters are handy things when you aren't too lazy to use them.
Dani - Mar 18, 2004 10:58:38 am PST #3584 of 10001
I believe vampires are the world's greatest golfers
Thanks for the tips, everyone. Good to know.
Deb, I will definitely take you up on that offer later today.
§ ita § - Mar 18, 2004 11:00:38 am PST #3585 of 10001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
friends-locked entries in personal journals could only be read by people on your personal f'list
LJ's right.
P.M. Marc - Mar 18, 2004 11:01:08 am PST #3586 of 10001
So come, my friends, be not afraid/We are so lightly here/It is in love that we are made; In love we disappear
Dani, I only recently learned that it's considered polite to make a post commenting in their journal that you friended them and why.
Eh, some people consider it polite, but I think they are weird people. I really tend to not bother unless they have a stated policy. Of course, normally, I'm adding someone who has added me. And I'd say only two or three people have ever dropped me a line to say they've added me, and I thought it very strange of them to do so.
Astarte - Mar 18, 2004 11:08:34 am PST #3587 of 10001
Not having has never been the thing I've regretted most in my life. Not trying is.
I usually post if I have something to say, but mostly start lurking to see if there's enough to start a conversation with. Then I introduce myself in my first comment.
(I'm Ro-Astarte over there, Dani, feel free to friend me if you're so inclined.
Consuela - Mar 18, 2004 11:09:28 am PST #3588 of 10001
We are Buffistas. This isn't our first apocalypse. -- Pix
A number of people have friended me whom I don't know and who don't ever comment. I think it's the fic-posting thing. ::shrugs::
Most of my more personal entries are friends-locked.