Also, when you get married, you take not only your husband's last name but also his first name as your middle name, because the patrilineage is the only thing that matters.

So, I'd become Stephanie Sunil Spectral-Bovine?

That's....even more claustrophobia-inducing (to me) than the Western tradition of taking your husband's name. Yeesh.

Though I'd have a cool monogram.

prasad

This made me laugh because I have a friend named Prasad and my first thought was, "Jeebus, Marny, and Jacob..she's trying to marry him off, too???

I'm getting girly on your asses!!

Third day in a row I have worn a dress to work.

Shirt: [link] Boobies! Now with ruffles! [link] Flats: [link]

Verdict: Linebacker?

Not at all. Gorgeous girl, is what.

Gloomcookie is HOTT.

I'm getting girly on your asses!!

Third day in a row I have worn a dress to work.

I wore pants today for the first time in... thinks... a very long time.

waits for Jilli to swoop in

Glamcookie cannot be a linebacker. Tis unpossible. You look very cute.

I loves my buffista friends. Y'all know how to make a girl feel good :)

I wore pants today for the first time in... thinks... a very long time.

When did I acquire a Brit brain? Awaits Fay's response to this.

Hec, I'm aware of your prospect for the future, in fact I've been wrestling with it all morning and refusing to lay it out for my nearest and dearest as one possibility. I did discuss it in email with a close friend, who has assured me she's fine with being used as a virtual punching bag. But while prepared for that eventuality, I have to try to believe in JZ's more positive outlook.

Yeah, I'm sorry to be such a gloombucket, Bev. As JZ rightly notes, the fact that he's already showing some signs of recovery is very encouraging. I didn't mean to be such a nattering nabob of negativity toward you so much as I wanted people to understand the length and difficulty of this path your family is on.

What's complicating things further is that his ex has custody of the kids.

I was wondering how this situation would play out. Here's my bright side scenario for you, since I owe you one: the ex actually lightens up over this situation. Since it's clear that StE can't take custody right now, she won't perceive it as a threat and will gradually realize the value of including your family in her children's lives.