Yay, Gud! I'm glad the increase appears to be helping.
My heart has been aching for both of you, because I know things weren't always this stressed between you (which is why I roll my eyes when people say she'll never change: that's something you say about someone when they've showed that pattern over their whole relationship CV, not when someone is suffering from severe and undertreated depression), and also because I know when I'm in black dog land, I tend to react to things the way your wife has, and it just make things worse, because I know the things that are triggering me aren't the actual problem, but the actual problem has so many tendrils that I just can't articulate it until something bubbles the rage out. May things continue to improve.
Thanks for the wishes!