IOON, let's say (hypothetically speaking) that an interested party e-mailed a person on Friday and started quite a chain of e-mails (12). Then, all of a sudden, interested party stops e-mailing. At what point is it ok for person to e-mail and say, "Did I scare you away?"

I'm terribly afraid (still speaking hypothetically) that interested party went and found me on LJ and found unlocked posts where I talked about him. I don't think I said anything in e-mails that would have caused a complete stop. We were really having a good time with the e-mailing. And, his last e-mail said, "I hope I come home to an e-mail from you tonight" and made references to him cooking me dinner.

I think maybe I suck at this boy thing.

If I don’t hear tonight, she’s getting a SCATHING letter mailed to her tomorrow, registered mail.

Don't forget to cc the rent board and tenants' rights group and any lawyers you happen to know (whether or not they deal in tenant/landlord disputes, or even whether or not they're local or just a friendly Buffista with a law degree -- the landlord's highly unlikely to research, or to do anything but panic over seeing an Esq. in the cc list). I did that with my own deadbeat landlords after a month and a half of wrangling over the deposit, and I got a check for the full amount plus interest in three days.

It's also worth checking into all the state laws surrounding security deposits. My landlords turned out to have screwed themselves royally under CA law by dithering for a full 30 days: in this state, if the landlord not only fails to return the security deposit plus interest within 30 days, but also fails to send the ex-tenant an itemized list of damages for which the deposit is being withheld, s/he forfeits all rights to the deposit, even if it turns out that the ex-tenant has trashed the place. And you can bet I cited that little nugget of CA law (and enclosed a copy of it from the state govt. website) in my rent board, tenants' rights, Esq.-cc'd letter.

Go get 'em, tigress.

I think maybe I suck at this boy thing.

::Waits for SPP::

Dad's wrong. I don't think you are over reacting. You've tried the civilized way. You haven't been rude to them or prospective tenets. Nor are you doing anything rude. You are protecting your rights. If you can't get your landlord to listen to you on the phone or F2F, a register letter ( with a note that a you have a copy ) is the next step.

Ps - of course, I may be overreacting doing to my desire to slap THE MAN.

I've gotten full refunds on two security deposits because of that law. Well, one was because of that law, the other was because Los Angeles only gives them 21 days.

I've gotten full refunds on two security deposits because of that law.

It's the best law EVAR.

Sorry about the boy worries, vw. I have no advice to offer, just patience-ma and commiseration. I suck at it, too, which may sound bullshitty since I actually have a boy, but I assure you it happened not only through no effort of my own, but very likely in spite of myself.

Sorry about the boy worries, vw.

It's kind of stupid. I mean, it's been what? Three days. Ok, four. But, it was going so well, and I probably got over-excited, and blech.

I just don't know when it's ok for me to e-mail again and say, "DUDE! I liked you! What's up?"

I think you found the flaw in the email plan - you have no way of knowing anything - like did his cat spill water and kill his keyboard, did I say too much , or did he get distracted by work, family, etc. I'd wait a little longer

It's the best law EVAR.

That is a FANTASTIC law! Because many of my landlords have been painfully slow about this.

It's the law here too, Em. I've gotten VERY familiar with the law today.