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No Fernet, no plague.

So I've known this girl (well, woman, I suppose, but girl is such a nice word) online for several months; she's a VM fan. Let's call her...Rose Walker. She lives down in Mountain View. I met her for the first time in March when I was here for my first two weeks of work. We had fun, and when she hugged me goodbye, it was very enveloping. I felt some sort of connection, but maybe she was just a really good hugger.

I saw her again for the VM finale party, and I got some more very nice hugs, as well as some Sandman comics.

Once I read them, I had to return them to her, so I went down there last Thursday. The whole week, I had been wondering whether Something might happen. I was simultaneously convinced and skeptical, but to prove that I am a total dork, I applied some chapstick and placed a breath strip on my tongue in the parking lot. Just in case.

To my dismay, her roommate was there. I returned her comics, and she gave me a couple other Gaiman works to read. We watched TV for a couple hours.

It was during Good Eats that I took an opportunity to hug her and then leave my arm around her. To which she responded by taking my hand in hers and gently rubbing it with her thumb, and even I could tell that was A Signal. The roommate was still there, though, and it was getting late, so I asked her to walk me back to my car where we could continue our sitting.

In the backseat, then, making out occurred. And I must say that given the mythos surrounding the backseat, I thought it would be more accomodating, but there's really not much space back there, huh. I noted the lack of room, and she noted that I still had some Gaiman of hers, which meant I had to come back. It was all part of her evil plan, she said. You saucy minx, I replied.

After we hugged goodbye, she gave me a regular kiss and squeezed my hand before leaving, which is where the angst really begins, because I don't know what's going on. If we were having a thing, that was fine, but what if she thought it was a Thing? I had had a small crush, to be sure, but I'd never really considered dating. I've never dated before; my entire romantic history is a series of flings. So maybe I have no sense of anything. But I don't know if I should take this as friends making out or an attempt to go further. She's been gone to New York for the week, so I haven't had to fulfill her evil plan just yet, but I'm not sure if I should say something or just see what happens or ruin everything. Because making out is good, but hurting people's feelings is not.

the tequila/coffee liqueuer

Do tell more. I need details.

Great news, Jen, and great reward. Also, congratulations to Stephen.

PC, do you want to kiss her again? Then you should kiss her again. Back off the terminology and the labelling.

PC, just be completely up front with her. Tell her exactly where you are and exactly what you're thinking.

In meme news, my back is out. I'm in a lot of pain, which sucks. What doesn't suck, though, is X-Men 3. We saw the midnight showing last night, and it was up to the standards I expected. if you go see it, btw, be sure you stay until after the credits. important info revealed at the end.

What ita said.

I'm in a lot of pain, which sucks.

No pain for Kristin! Do you have something to take?

PC, do you want to kiss her again? Then you should kiss her again.

But that's too easy! You and your simple answers.

PC, just be completely up front with her. Tell her exactly where you are and exactly what you're thinking.

Before or after I kiss her again?

What doesn't suck, though, is X-Men 3. We saw the midnight showing last night, and it was up to the standards I expected. if you go see it, btw, be sure you stay until after the credits. important info revealed at the end.

How low were your standards, though? Heh. We're seeing it tomorrow (in L.A., in fact!), and I always stay for the credits anyway. Though I did know there's something worth waiting for in this one.

No pain for Kristin! Do you have something to take?

Fernet?

P-C, you say, "I never really considered dating." Are you considering it now, with her? I guess I'm not completely sure you have a clear notion in your own mind.

I seem to agree with both ita and KristinT -- that is, if you're willing to see where it all leads then abandon the labels and give the girl a kiss. If you've got reservations and/or boundaries to set up then you've got to communicate with her before you're too much in the land of "leading her on."

Fernet might be the only thing that would kill the pain. I did take a couple of aspirin, but I'm not sure if it's going to help.