What Andi said. From what you've said about your dad, he's a good man and he loves you lots, and he'll understand. As long as he has a place to sit and there's nothing conspicuously stinky lying around, don't gnaw yourself to bits over it.
Wild monkey love or tender Sarah McLachlan love?
Xander ,'Him'
Spike's Bitches 30: Going on Thirteen
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risque (and frisque), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
JZ - Apr 19, 2006 1:18:28 pm PDT #282 of 10002
See? I gave everybody here an opportunity to tell me what a bad person I am and nobody did, because I fuckin' rule.
Pix - Apr 19, 2006 1:22:06 pm PDT #283 of 10002
We're all getting played with, babe. -Weird Barbie
Thank you...I know you're all right, it's just...
I hope you'll all understand when I say that I have to clean. I mean, I'm not going to go crazy, but I will be more unhappy and uncomfortable if he arrives and it's dirty than if I take the afternoon to nap and veg. Does that make sense?
juliana - Apr 19, 2006 1:23:23 pm PDT #284 of 10002
I’d be lying if I didn’t say that I miss them all tonight…
Oh, that makes a ton of sense, hon. It's okay. Think about how nice it'll feel once you've cleaned, turn on some music and blast as high as you can, and go for it.
Love you.
Pix - Apr 19, 2006 1:25:25 pm PDT #285 of 10002
We're all getting played with, babe. -Weird Barbie
I love you all so much. I really don't know what I would do without you right now. Thank you.
Okay, deep breath. Music and cleaning.
ChiKat - Apr 19, 2006 1:26:47 pm PDT #286 of 10002
That man was going to shank me. Over an omelette. Two eggs and a slice of government cheese. Is that what my life is worth?
Tons of sense, Kristin. Give yourself rewards as you go. Once you pick up the living room and put everything away, you can spend 10 min on b.org. Once you clean the toilet, you can have a cold pop.
I do that to myself all the time.
WindSparrow - Apr 19, 2006 1:26:53 pm PDT #287 of 10002
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
Kristin, if this is elbow-grease therapy, then here is me shaking my pom-poms for you. We want you to do what will make you least stressed, and by we, I mean all the Bitches, and your Dad, too. Put on some dancing music and boogy the mess outta there. If you are having trouble getting started, maybe make a deal with yourself to have some sort of treat if you accomplish a certain amount.
I had to promise myself brownies in order to get myself to shower and leave the house to apply for a job, and yet once I got going, everything was fine.
ChiKat - Apr 19, 2006 1:27:36 pm PDT #288 of 10002
That man was going to shank me. Over an omelette. Two eggs and a slice of government cheese. Is that what my life is worth?
I had to promise myself brownies in order to get myself to shower and leave the house to apply for a job,
Brownies are a great reward!
JZ - Apr 19, 2006 1:28:13 pm PDT #289 of 10002
See? I gave everybody here an opportunity to tell me what a bad person I am and nobody did, because I fuckin' rule.
It totally makes sense. Just do whatever the minimum is to allow yourself to be comfortable having your dad in your space, and don't run yourself ragged. I'm sorry it's been such an emotional and financial whammy of a day.
Topic!Cindy - Apr 19, 2006 1:29:58 pm PDT #290 of 10002
What is even happening?
Poor Kristin. What a crappy day. I'm glad you'll have your dad at the end of it. I totally understand the cleaning thing. Plus, at the end, you'll have clean apartment, which is also nice.
Emily - Apr 19, 2006 2:29:45 pm PDT #291 of 10002
"In the equation E = mc⬧, c⬧ is a pretty big honking number." - Scola
Holy crap! [link] I gotta say, not a lot like this generally happens in Boston, at least not in heavily trafficked areas.