Yeah, I'm not so much a hugger of acquaintances.
Well, but now you know if a woman is avoiding looking at you, it's because she has a mad crush on you. And is flustered.
Sure! That or she finds me repulsive.
Can't even shout, Can't even cry. The Gentlemen are coming by. Looking in windows, knocking on doors. They need to take seven, and they might take yours. Can't call to mom, can't say a word. You're gonna die screaming but you won't be heard.
Dream Girl ,'Bring On The Night'
Natter 43: I Love My Dead Gay Whale Crosspost.
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Hayden - Apr 06, 2006 12:58:16 pm PDT #9284 of 10001
aka "The artist formerly known as Corwood Industries."
JenP - Apr 06, 2006 12:58:23 pm PDT #9285 of 10001
My Gyn is like that.
Yeah. Awkward.
Perzactly. This is (mostly) why I've never had a male gyn before, but this one was a referral and is my gyn oncologist, so, you know. But, you know, right now my 78-y.o. mother and my lesbian sister also have crushes on him, so I feel pretty justified. (They met him in the hospital, lest you all think my family is weird(er) than it is). It's just... not quite as awkward for them.
bon bon - Apr 06, 2006 1:00:10 pm PDT #9286 of 10001
It's five thousand for kissing, ten thousand for snuggling... End of list.
It's a NYT Styles article-- a section that frequently publishes about a certain type of aspirational trend and makes you feel embarrassed for not being a part of it. Like Alex Kuczynski writing about buying things at Barneys. In any case, it doesn't happen at my work, though I've been known to buss some acquaintances in the city.
brenda m - Apr 06, 2006 1:00:55 pm PDT #9287 of 10001
If you're going through hell/keep on going/don't slow down/keep your fear from showing/you might be gone/'fore the devil even knows you're there
No one I work with better try to air kiss me.
Oh hells no.
ETA: and the moment I posted that, I remembered that I actually do greet one of our consultants with an actual lip smack when he's in town. But that's special, because, a) he's hot, b) he's funny as hell and I really like (not like like) him, and c) he's just that kind of guy.
But anyone else can back the fuck up.
juliana - Apr 06, 2006 1:04:38 pm PDT #9288 of 10001
I’d be lying if I didn’t say that I miss them all tonight…
Theater and restaurant/bar work - we hug & kiss all the time.
Office job - NSM with the hugging, oh hell no with the kissing.
Lee - Apr 06, 2006 1:06:10 pm PDT #9289 of 10001
The feeling you get when your brain finally lets your heart get in its pants.
Going back to being oblivious and flirting for a moment, I just had to take the Westlaw Rep up to our new associate's office. NA is tall, cute, male, single, seems straight, and has a cute New Zealand accent. 2 seconds before we got to his door, one of the female associates cuts us off, then stands in his door way (really, she leaned into it-- her body language couldn't have said "DO ME NOW" more if she had been wearing neon) and completely fails to notice that the westlaw rep and I are standing behind her.
I don't know if NA was oblivious to her flirting or not, but I'm pretty sure he caught the rep and I making fun of her.
JenP - Apr 06, 2006 1:07:29 pm PDT #9290 of 10001
Yeah, when I worked on Comm Dev Banking (in a very made up job, but whatever, it paid), the hug thing was totally case-by-case. Lots of the community folk we dealt with were huggers - big huggers. Not too much with the cheek kissing, though. And then a lot of people I worked with were actually friends, so that line got blurred. Man, that was a good group of people. Too bad there was no there there where the job was concerned. I miss those people.
ETA:
I don't know if NA was oblivious to her flirting or not, but I'm pretty sure he caught the rep and I making fun of her.
Ha!
Matt the Bruins fan - Apr 06, 2006 1:23:23 pm PDT #9291 of 10001
"I remember when they eventually introduced that drug kingpin who murdered people and smuggled drugs inside snakes and I was like 'Finally. A normal person.'” —RahvinDragand
I shudder to think of all the time and energy I wasted through high school and college and embarrassingly far beyond with silent pining, trying to make this friend or that love me through the sheer power of my (silent, cryptic, completely passive) mind.
Ah, how familiar this sounds. Though at least by 30 I'd wised up enough to let my crush object know, and got a fun and un-tense friendship out of the bargain (if not the sort of affection I'd have preferred.) Crushing when they know you're interested and are up-front about not sharing the interest can actually rock.
The difference is I enjoy flirting, but being hit on gives me the willies.
One of the benefits of being a complete slut is that if someone I'm attracted to hits on me, I'm a sure thing. Though if there seems to be an expectation that I'll feel obligated to say yes, things can go pear-shaped rather quickly.
Sheryl - Apr 06, 2006 1:27:28 pm PDT #9292 of 10001
Fandom means never having to say "But where would I wear that?"
Timelies all!
Hugging is fine, in its place.Like at a con.(The con I was just at had a "hugging contest" and asked people to put stickers on their badges to indicate if they wanted to be hugged. Red=no, yellow= ask first and green= yes) Not at work, though.
Matt the Bruins fan - Apr 06, 2006 1:32:50 pm PDT #9293 of 10001
"I remember when they eventually introduced that drug kingpin who murdered people and smuggled drugs inside snakes and I was like 'Finally. A normal person.'” —RahvinDragand
I'll hug co-workers I haven't seen for a while, as some are friends I've known a decade or more. But not the ones I work with daily even if we're friends, and as for the co-workers I'm related to, none of us are really huggy types.