I don't really want to hurt the people they are *now*
Yeah. I hear you. There were points at which seeing the people in question suffer would have cheered me. Points much closer to the pain. Mostly, though, I'd have preferred the suffering to happen in a time/fashion that'd have stopped them from doing the full extent of the things that caused me the pain in the first place.
Don't get me wrong--I'm not an overly forgiving person. There are grudges I expect to hold until I die, people I have no intention of caring a bout, or even speaking less than tersely to ever again.
But that's not much of a punishment.
ETA: He is 2 years old, today!
How lovely! Turn two, the rest are food!
How do you pronounce schadenfreude again?
I don't really want to hurt the people they are *now*
I learned this lesson with the help of the wisdom of Billy Connolly. He has a song called "Tha Janny" about a janitor that tormented him when he was at school, and how his small self vowed eternal hatred and revenge. He encounters him later in life.
"If ah'd laid a haund upon hem, ma mates woulda murdured me
...
a perr wee sowwel is tha janny."
A poor little soul is the janny.
The problem with vengeance is that it's a poor substitute for vindication.
I'd love vengeance or vindication for my evil ex-boss, who lied to me, about me, and treated me like shit on a job that started so promisingly and that I'd moved across the country to take. I fantasized for several years about making him pay, but nothing ever seemed like it would work, and it wouldn't ever get what I wanted, which was for him to admit that he was wrong and had mistreated me.
Because no matter what happened, he was never going to admit that I was right. So.
Happiest of birthdays to Allyson's cutiehead nephew!
From tommyrot's link:
Edgell believes a fear of moral decline and resulting social disorder is behind the findings. “Americans believe they share more than rules and procedures with their fellow citizens—they share an understanding of right and wrong,” she said. “Our findings seem to rest on a view of atheists as self-interested individuals who are not concerned with the common good.”
Where do the Atheist-leaning agnostics fall under this study, I wonder? Are there torches and pitchforks for us as well?
So, they pay me to catalogue antiquarian books, and I just stumbled across this amusing little number.
The rehearsall transpros'd : the second part. Occasioned by two letters: the first ... the second letter ... If thou darest to print or publish any lie or libel against Doctor Parker, by the eternal God I will cut thy throat.
From back when threats meant something.
Oh, I'd like to see a picture of Prince's purple house. [link] And for that matter I'd like to see this too even though I'm not into Bond. [link]
My days of desiring vengeance have passed. I rid myself of the evil folk immediately. They become nonpeople, out of my thoughts and life. Some of the Evil ones are married to loved ones so I still have to see them. But they don't have the power to hurt me or make me crazy. I used to pity the spouses, but they choose to live with awful people and be abused. I can't make other people's choices.
Now you mess with my loved ones that are children or otherwise unable to defend themselves and fear me.
I've had evil bosses. I quit. I've had rotten boyfriends, I quit them. My rules are pretty simple. Treasure me or I got no time for you. Guess that's why I like it here so much. Y'all treat me well.
Note: If anyone has another email for Daisy other than the one in her profile send it my way. I haven't seen her here since the awful weather so I don't know if her internet is down. DH is headed her way Thursday and would like to see her again. eta: got it thanks.
