I'm so sad for Tom, now. Salem is a really cool town, though.
Yes. And he does love the garden and the commute and the BeerWorks, but I totally understand his feeling isolated.
I want to start getting involved in community stuff, and maybe coordinate with the couple that just moved next to us (another Brit-American couple) with doing a double open house/neighborhood block party type of thing.
Some of it also is adjusting to married social life. Which is a whole weird and subtle thing, but was definitely made less subtle when we moved.
He's been pretty depressed since we bought the house, and I feel hella guilty about it, because I love the house, and love Salem, and I feel like I pushed him into this. Which, no, I didn't really, but it's my tendency to blame myself for stuff when I see people I care about hurting.
And it's not that Tom wants to live the urban hipster life in the big city, or anything. He's a homebody and putterer, but this move stirred up a LOT of stuff for him, that he's just now beginning to process. So, we'll work it out.
I've never been to Massachusettes, but I would far rather live in Salem than Sommerville.
I totally know where Tom's coming from. Between college, and the first 10 years after, I lived in Kenmore Square, the Fenway, or Brookline-bordering-Allston for close to a decade and a half
Yes, I thought you would identify...
ugh on all the evil living arrangements. At least with Dh we just keep working things through and there is none ( ok very little) of 'that was my food'or other roomate things. Vw and Emily work more like a family - Not!emily works like a roommate you don't know well.
forgot - good news I booked matt and I into the hotel for the f2f on fri- sat night. I 'll be around other times - just sleeping at home.
I've never been to Massachusettes, but I would far rather live in Salem than Sommerville
But of course.
Just heard from some forever-friends. They are quitting the Service and moving to Portland. No jobs lined up, nothing, but it's a done deal. Both their families are there, so it's not quite as scary as I tend to think, but man.
I'm an adrenaline-junkie in some ways, but buying a house while not having a job? No.
buying a house while not having a job?
Yeah, that's ballsy. The stress would kill me before I could even find a job.
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Who wants to cover me while I go over there and resue that baby from a life of ridiculous parenting that borders on dangerous?
