TypoBoy, I appreciate your advice, but I will walk away from this place before I ever get into legal proceedings with my parents. The thing is, they mean well. We may have very dysfunctional dynamics, but they are really trying to help me. They just doing realize that their idea of help sometimes takes harmful forms.

OK. But you don't neccesarily have to get into a legal fight to enforce legal rights. Just knowing you have them can help you insist on them. For instance you are co-owner, but also the sole resident. There is a right to peaceful enjoyment. Don't know if it applies against a non-resident co-owner; but a lawyer could tell you. Suppose it does. Then you could point out to your mother than she is treating you in a totally illegal way; of course cause she is your mother she can get away with tormenting you in a way that no stranger would ever put up with, because of course you could never insist on legal rights with your family no matter how much they make you suffer. Or some other approach. The point is that if she is actually violating some legal right you have (and I suspect she is but would need a lawyer to tell you) just mentioning the fact might make them take what they are doing to you more seriously.

No, they're not here every day. Apparently they hedge their bets by bidding on and taking several jobs at the same time. If we'd had someone willing to commit to the job, I suppose it could have been finished in 5 months or so. Let me tell ya the experience has had me dreaming about starting a website where people can recommend and pan contractors. Then I found out about Angie's List.

If I'd had any idea of how this was going to go, I would have taken classes at the Building Education Center. I may yet take some when I get a job again and have a little extra to do things like take classes.

As far as how long we have left? Maybe a month or two, depending on the weather. Whereas I've been praying for it to speed up most of the time, I'd be happy if it slowed down now. I really don't want to have to look for housemates at the same time I'm looking for a job.

Wasn't he hilarious?

I hope that AD is on the show again.

Spidra -- I wish that you could hire contractors in LA to go and change the locks in your parents house while they were out for the day -- how safe and comfortable would they feel? I don't understand why they can't see your position on this.

The point is that if she is actually violating some legal right you have (and I suspect she is but would need a lawyer to tell you) just mentioning the fact might make them take what they are doing to you more seriously.

I can just say that if I were renting, the landlord would have to give 24 hours notice before they or their hired workers could come on the premises. But she really isn't responding to logic.

I'm the eldest of 15 kids. Right now my mom is dealing with the house stuff here; one brother being on assignment in Afghanistan (this is after doing his tour of duty in Iraq); one brother in jail; one brother who made two suicide attempts in the last year; a learning disabled sister who got involved with a sleazeball guy and fiercely defended him to my parents, ran off, got knocked up, realized the guy was a sleazeball and begged to be flown back home; numerous kids who've also made really stupid and irresponsible decisions and either got knocked up or knocked up others as well as being in and out of jail; a sister whose lifestyle decisions and bad luck led to her spine basically disintegrating so mom is helping manage her application to SSDI and deal with the lifestyle change of needing a wheelchair, my mom's own fibromyalgia and a couple other conditions, my dad's pneumonia bout and now a fractured ankle...the family circus just goes on and on.

I don't want to add to her woes. I don't want to make her feel unappreciated. But I also don't want to be pushed around and treated as if I'm 10. It's a hard row to hoe. At this point, when I can manage it, the best way is to flow around the obstacles. Engage as little as possible and try to do what I believe best without arguing about it. But sometimes I just get overwhelmed by it all.

OK Spidra. Don't want to make your life harder. Just some thought; obviously you know your situation.

I wish that you could hire contractors in LA to go and change the locks in your parents house while they were out for the day

That's what I've fervently wished for my mom and also for the contractors who by and large are very rude. I think they'd look at things differently if I were able to do to them what is done to me. It's sad that some folks can't have empathy unless they have the immediate memory of having gone through the same thing.

Man, the talk about Gilmore Girls has me bumming that I'm so far behind in GG watching. I'll have to wait for the DVDs at this point. Same with West Wing. I've really got to get a better setup for torrenting.

I really appreciate the thought, Typo Boy. I do.

Spidra, I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this ongoing. I agree with the folks who said you should install locks on your bedroom (and bathroom!) doors to which the contractors have no keys. At least those areas can be kept private.

You guys! I was laughing all through the taking daughters or sons to the toilet at the ball game. Have none of you ever heard Bill Cosby's take on it?

"I'm goin' to see the Rams play. I'm almost out the door and my wife says, 'Take your daughter with you.' My daughter's three years old, but okay. I'm takin' my daughter to see the Rams play. We get there and we're in our seats, and I get her some popcorn and a hot dog and a drink, and the game starts getting interesting, and my daughter says, 'I have to tee-tee!'

"But I don't want to leave the game. In a little bit, she says again, 'I have to tee-tee!' I hand her my bag of popcorn. Things are really getting exciting now, and in a minute, she yells, 'I have to tee-tee!' Three rows above and below us stand up and look at me. 'YOU BRUTE! TAKE YOUR DAUGHTER TO TEE-TEE!'

"So now I'm at the Rams game, and I'm taking my daughter to tee-tee. Except there's not a father-daughter tee-tee room. Oh, it's okay for mothers with sons. You could be nineteen years old and your mom could take you into the ladies' room, (lady voice) 'This is my son,' and everybody'd just smile and nod. But if you take your three-year-old daughter to the men's room, everybody just gets upset. 'Aw man, don't bring that girl in here!'"

And so on. I think family tee-tee rooms are probably one of the greatest inventions of western civilization.

I really want to see HIMYM, but I haven't been able to download the last couple eps.

I have packed mucho tonight--currently residing in my car are two tubs of wintery clothes, a suitcase of fancy-ish clothes, a box of dishes (I used half a ream of school newspaper to wrap and protect it all!), random collectibles, a george foreman grill and a toaster. I feel very accomplished, and the car is very full. I think I really will be able to get most of this stuff out of here by graduation weekend, which is very exciting!

However: in doing all this packing stuff, I've neglected my homework. So much reading. So. Much. Pot o'coffee and an all-nighter, here I come.

currently residing in my car are two tubs of wintery clothes

I get cold so easily that this is like porn to me. Ahhhhh snuggly winter clothes.

Good luck on the all-nighter. I'm-a brew a pot o' coffee myself.