It's one of the Yahoo groups. It's not mine: I'm just a listmod, I don't own, nor did I start the group. BBF

Ahhh. Reverse of what I was thinking. But, again, if the author isn't totally passive-aggressive, an e-mail from them saying WTF only requires a response of "Oops, I'll add you to the archive ASAP." I'm guessing, though, there are more P-A people out there than not. It's too bad that your pseudonyms are so well known that this is a problem. Savest to not rec, as you don't.

Well, they wouldn't email, or say WTF, I expect. They'd probably just sit and not say anything, potentially stewing. I just have this extreme fear of accidentally pissing someone off over something like that, as that's how kerfuffles get started. Online communication, lacking the hand motions or the facial expressions that make real life communication slightly simpler, can be a pain in the ass.

The bestest recs site in the world, of course, is Polyamourous Rec. I tend to only really read recs sites or blogs that are independent of an archive, because the focus is broader, and there's more of a chance that what I'll find will be excellent.

I keep thinking I need to put together a recs page on my website. I'm not too worried about anyone getting offended by my including them or not. I haven't read everything, and my critieria for recs would be so utterly subjective that anyone else's offense would be like they're being offended that I don't like mushrooms on my pizza or something.

Yes, I know, there are those sorts out there. I think they write the reviews on ff.net. No, that's just mean, I've gotten some very nice reviews over there, all the more precious because they stand out more.

Heh, you would hate me as a reader, I almost never review, even if I like something.

Plei, thanks for the links. I had BBFA bookmarked, but hadn't joined the list. I have now. Also, Polyamourous has some of my fave authors, so I'm sure I will find more I like.

Just counted my bookmarks and I have over 70 sites linked. Maybe I should start my own rec site.

I could probably start a website, had I webspace, coding skills and inclination. But everything I read I find at other rec sites, so it would be sort of redundant.

You're right in a way, Holli. But most of my sites I've gleaned from recs on multiple sites, not just one site. I like to think I've got the creme-de-la-creme of Spike/Spuffy fic listed. I wouldn't set myself up as comprehensive, just very special interest.

Mine would hardly be creme de la creme, more "This one made me laugh/cry/feel all warm and tingly". More a fic-Rorschach of me, rather than any attempt to say "These are the best things out there." YEs, half the reason I don't do it is because I'm afraid people will say, "That piece of drivel/schmoop/unrepentent mush?"

As for coding skills, my website is built off of Front Page, no mad coding skills involved--and it probably shows. But it's out there, and that was more important than having it look really, really good.

I used to worry about fandom politics and reccing. Mostly, it's just too exhausting. What goes up at PolyRecs goes up, and people can deal.

people can deal.

Exactly. I pick and choose. Everyone does. If I can't find what I want one place, I try another.

Plus, we've got over 1000 stories up there, so anyone who can't find *something* to make them happy has deeper problems than the fact that I don't read MPREG or RPF.

MPREG or RPF

Decode, please? I'm guessing MPREG is male pregnancy? The other, not a clue.