Gud-- I can only echo everyone's advice. It mnay be hard to believe now, but there is a better life waiting for you. The weight of constantly failing someone's expectations is heavier than you will ever know while you are living under it, and once the painful process of getting free of it is over you WILL feel better.
My college roommate and close friend got divorced last year. Fifteen year marriage with four kids aged from 6 to 14. It was devastating to him, and an extremely difficult transition.
But he said the first time he came home to his house with just his kids and no longer had to face his wife, it was just a massive, massive relief. And he's actually doing well now.
And I'm another example of getting to a better place after a divorce. I cannot recommend the experience, but it's possible. Don't despair.
{{{Gud}}} No advise, just lots of love.
vw - hang in there. Did you end up with Prednosone?
Nicole - An "A". wtf?
Did you end up with Prednosone?
Yup. Got them through IV last night and am on an oral taper now.
Also, Gud, I know I really don't know you or your situation that well, but I can tell you this - try not to worry to much how splitting up will affect the kids. As the child of parents who had nothing in common but myself and my sister, I used to cry myself to sleep at night wishing they'd get divorced and be happy. Kids are stronger and smarter than parents tend to give them credit for in that regard.
Nicole - An "A". wtf?
Are you saying what I think you're saying? Did you get an A? In History?
::holds excitement and I TOLD YOU SO in check::
Still have not gotten my feedback from the instructor, but that is what is posted in grade portfolio.
Not complaining, just don't understand. I SERIOUSLY skated through that class. I didn't even do the last two "role play" thingies. I decided my mental health was worth more.
I SERIOUSLY skated through that class.
Yeah, but you were at least twice as smart as your idiot 7th-grade teacher prof, and he had the good grace to recognize that instead of getting sniffy about it.
Ahahahaha! Sorry y'all but MG and I were discussing her grades just last night. She was sure she'd get a B or maybe even a C and I was rolling my eyes so hard they practically fell out of my head.
Anyway. Go you, MG!!! Woo hoo!!!
Dear Gud: When my parents split up and my Dad moved out, we cried a lot. However, the tension level in the house went down so very dramatically, 'twas a huge, ginormous relief for all concerned. I'm happy to say my parents were then able to pull together, treat each other courteously, and provide us girls with family Christmases, etc. Things worked out much, much better than we'd thought they ever could when they first gave us the bad news. Whatever happens, you will always be Daddy, you will always give love, and I know that you will always do your best for the kids.
ION: I've gotten an appointment set at Labor Relations to discuss illegal paycheck deductions with evil bonus-taking-back boss. Looks like I'm eligible to receive a full 30 days compensation because they withheld that one little 6-hour paycheck. After all the She-Horror said to me about keeping my paperwork in compliance with state law, this is just wonderfully amusing. I keep wanting someone to go with me and hold my hand during the face-off, even though I've righteousness on my side.
