I'm still unclear on the concept of radical acceptance, but it really interests me. Is it (basically) just deciding that no matter how much stress a given situation is causing you, you tell yourself (in kinder terms) "Suck it up and DEAL!"?
Kind of, but yeah, kinder. It involves validating your feelings around a situation and accepting it as is. The thought is, once you accept the situation, from deep within yourself, you'll be better prepared to actually handle/change the situation. I just wrote a pretty good piece on radical acceptance (and it's pretty damn funny in parts), if you'd like to read it. I think it gives a pretty good understanding of what it is.
I just wrote a pretty good piece on radical acceptance (and it's pretty damn funny in parts), if you'd like to read it.
I definitely would!
See, I just have a hard time with the idea of making myself accept a shitty situation. I'm stubborn and willful like that. (And also, unsurprisingly, get stressed more often than I'd like.) So the concept of radical acceptance really interests me, but I don't understand *how* to actually make myself *do* it.
It's a tough one to accept, if you will. But, it's really changed my life.
I don't have the file here at work, but I'll send it to you when I get home. Hopefully, if nothing else, it'll give you a good laugh.
Also, the important thing to note is accepting a situation does not mean you're declaring it good. It's still a shitty situation. You just are accepting that it's a shitty situation and you can either not do anything about it at this time, or you can do something about it.
The method I use to accept my problems is to blame myself. You see, it's my fault anyway because I suck, so I should just lump it. The idea of positively accepting a situation just boggles me.
Hey Trudes, that new year you ordered for me must be on slow boat delivery...
Unfortunately, I sent it by New York City transit.
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Ooh, I know this one!
I do too. And it feels sucky.
I thought Tom's way was the only right way.
Timelies. I hope Fay gets the good job that values her; C gets the familyl that she deserves; Suzi gets a break; and everyone else gets candy.
The method *I* use is to blame Tom Scola. You see, if he's heaping the weight of the world on himself anyway whats a little bit more? He probably didn't even notice until just now.
Ooh, I know this one!
Me, too! Me, too!
(I'd be interested in your paper too, vw. I personally practice radical hiding, but it's not working out so well.)
