The method I use to accept my problems is to blame myself. You see, it's my fault anyway because I suck, so I should just lump it.
Ooh, I know this one!
Sometimes when I'm sitting in class... You know, I'm not thinking about class, 'cause that would never happen. I think about kissing you. And it's like everything stops. It's like, it's like freeze frame. Willow kissage.
Oz ,'First Date'
Spike's Bitches 28: For the Safety of Puppies...and Christmas!
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risque (and frisque), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Nora Deirdre - Dec 20, 2005 5:23:02 am PST #680 of 10001
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)
vw bug - Dec 20, 2005 5:25:50 am PST #681 of 10001
Mostly lurking...
Ooh, I know this one!
I do too. And it feels sucky.
Deena - Dec 20, 2005 5:26:14 am PST #682 of 10001
How are you me? You need to stop that. Only I can be me. ~Kara
I thought Tom's way was the only right way.
Timelies. I hope Fay gets the good job that values her; C gets the familyl that she deserves; Suzi gets a break; and everyone else gets candy.
Trudy Booth - Dec 20, 2005 5:27:16 am PST #683 of 10001
Greece's financial crisis threatens to take down all of Western civilization - a civilization they themselves founded. A rather tragic irony - which is something they also invented. - Jon Stewart
The method *I* use is to blame Tom Scola. You see, if he's heaping the weight of the world on himself anyway whats a little bit more? He probably didn't even notice until just now.
Ginger - Dec 20, 2005 5:27:32 am PST #684 of 10001
"It didn't taste good. It tasted soooo horrible. It tasted like....a vodka martini." - Matilda
Ooh, I know this one!
Me, too! Me, too!
(I'd be interested in your paper too, vw. I personally practice radical hiding, but it's not working out so well.)
amych - Dec 20, 2005 5:34:55 am PST #685 of 10001
Now let us crush something soft and watch it fountain blood. That is a girlish thing to want to do, yes?
I thought Tom's way was not only right, but the only possible way. Hmm.
Ginger, you may want to consider adding Radical Banging Your Head Against A Wall to your repertoire. It opens up the options considerably.
Tom Scola - Dec 20, 2005 5:38:25 am PST #686 of 10001
Mr. Scola’s wardrobe by Botany 500
the only possible way. Hmm.
Yes, this. I'm having a difficult time wrapping my head around what vw is even talking about.
Topic!Cindy - Dec 20, 2005 5:41:43 am PST #687 of 10001
What is even happening?
Writing about 31? That'd be half-assed.
I had that figured and one and a half-assed. I'll never get the math(s).
vw bug - Dec 20, 2005 5:43:16 am PST #688 of 10001
Mostly lurking...
Marsha Linehan, the person who developed DBT, has handouts about the different skills learned in therapy. Here are the bullet points from the Radical Acceptance handout:
- Freedom from suffering requires ACCEPTANCE from deep within of what is. Let yourself go completely with what is. Let go of fighting reality.
- ACCEPTANCE is the only way out of hell.
- Pain creates suffering only when you refuse to ACCEPT the pain.
- Deciding to tolerate the moment is ACCEPTANCE.
- ACCEPTANCE is acknowledging what is.
- To ACCEPT something is not the same as judging it good.
It sounds kind of hokey, and takes a little while to "get it" (or at least it did for me), but it really can be helpful. I don't want to bore the whole board with my-therapy-loves-carrots. But, anyone who's interested in reading my chapter on Radical Acceptance, let me know, and I can e-mail it to you later today.
amych - Dec 20, 2005 5:45:12 am PST #689 of 10001
Now let us crush something soft and watch it fountain blood. That is a girlish thing to want to do, yes?
It sounds kind of hokey
Mostly, it sounds very Buddhist. I'm not sure why I wasn't making that connection when you've talked about it before.