Spike's Bitches 28: For the Safety of Puppies...and Christmas!
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risque (and frisque), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Oh man. My boundary-o-meter is going off...trying not to make more of it than it is.
I tried canceling but Fella is not catching the drift. So. I'll be cooking 'something very simple and will probably not be the most sparkling of company.'
I thought he'd clue up. Didn't. I didn't push it out of the concerns you all articulated. I don't want him to think I've changed my mind or am cooling to him. That fact that I didn't sleep sort of underscores that point.
Oh well. Maybe it will be good to see how he responds to less than sparkling.
I tried canceling but Fella is not catching the drift. So. I'll be cooking 'something very simple and will probably not be the most sparkling of company.'
Er. Sorry? I know it's hard to be direct when you like someone, but try calling back and being direct. Say, "you know, I really don't feel well and we will have to do this another time."
If he doesn't, um, allow that, then that is a BIG HONKING SIGN. of something not great.
Oh man. My boundary-o-meter is going off...trying not to make more of it than it is.
I tried canceling but Fella is not catching the drift. So. I'll be cooking 'something very simple and will probably not be the most sparkling of company.'
If you didn't say straight out that you would like to reschedule for [insert your preferred night, here], you can't blame the man for not reading your mind. If I had a date scheduled, and then didn't feel well and didn't sleep, but liked the guy enough for a second date, I'd add the details about not sleeping and feeling lousy, but that's personal style.
Well, you can blame him in the sense that you're free to think whatever you want, but he may have just thought you were making conversation. Look how often we all come in here saying our asses ache.
Trudy, did the copies work ok?
If I had a date scheduled, and then didn't feel well and didn't sleep, but liked the guy enough for a second date, I'd add the details about not sleeping and feeling lousy, but that's personal style.
This is actually exactly what I said. Adding in that I hadn't really slept all week. Totally not his fault, obviously. Just me being distracted and suffering from self-imposed stress.
His response was that he didn't sleep well either...but he feels fine.
I think he's just so excited that we are hitting it off so well that he wasn't really thinking.
Also, our next possible option, if he does not come to the party tomorrow night (I think he's teaching a class) would be next Thursday.
That seems like too long, even for my aching ass.
This is actually exactly what I said. Adding in that I hadn't really slept all week. Totally not his fault, obviously. Just me being distracted and suffering from self-imposed stress.
Yeah, but that's the detail. Did you start out with, or add in somewhere that you want to reschedule? If not, I am more inclined to see his continued interest in keeping tonight's date as more compliment than boundary crossing.
You know what, then? Go for it. Make something quick and easy, hit the couch, maybe throw on a movie or SciFi Friday or something, and enjoy yourself.
If not, I am more inclined to see his continued interest in keeping tonight's date as more compliment than boundary crossing.
Yeah, I'm with Cindy.
You are exactly right Cindy. Boundary was the wrong word. Since this is the first actual connecting with someone on this level in longer than I can remember, I'm having trouble figuring out how to make things fit.
While it is tremendously complimentary (and I told him so), it's also scary to me. Maybe I won't be able to do it...ya know?
And yep. Hitting the couch is exactly what we'll do. That might actually be nice. But still odd for me. I take care of myself. Having someone around when I don't feel well is...different.
What I have going for me is that the vendors in Eastern Market know me well. All I have to do is walk through and say 'gimme sumpin' good' and tbey'll hook me up.
I think my head is just spinning.
That's just the double posting making you dizzy, Beej.
I hope you feel better (physically and courage-wise) by tonight, and end the evening glad you didn't cancel the date.
