Would it be awful to cancel the second date so hard on the heels of the first successful one?

Can you cancel with a specific rain date at the same time? That should be fine.

I'm glad you are feeling better Cindy, and hope you feel even better soon.

I'm glad you had a good date Beej, but I am unqualified to give any dating or relationship advice.

Ok, I left work early Wednesday, stayed home all day yesterday and have reported back to work today depite the still feeling not 100% and sporting a cold-medicine hangover as well as a lingering migraine.

Buh fucking lah.

Oh, and now it looks like Joe's paycheck is screwed up.

::head desk::

Beej, what Brenda said. If you cancel saying, can we make it Tuesday instead? that would be fine. People get sick. You just need to make a firm follow up date so he won't think you're trying to ditch him.

(((Aimee)))

I hope you are feeling better soon, and I hope the paycheck screwup isn't too bad.

Oh man. My boundary-o-meter is going off...trying not to make more of it than it is.

I tried canceling but Fella is not catching the drift. So. I'll be cooking 'something very simple and will probably not be the most sparkling of company.'

I thought he'd clue up. Didn't. I didn't push it out of the concerns you all articulated. I don't want him to think I've changed my mind or am cooling to him. That fact that I didn't sleep sort of underscores that point.

Oh well. Maybe it will be good to see how he responds to less than sparkling.

I tried canceling but Fella is not catching the drift. So. I'll be cooking 'something very simple and will probably not be the most sparkling of company.'

Er. Sorry? I know it's hard to be direct when you like someone, but try calling back and being direct. Say, "you know, I really don't feel well and we will have to do this another time."

If he doesn't, um, allow that, then that is a BIG HONKING SIGN. of something not great.

Oh man. My boundary-o-meter is going off...trying not to make more of it than it is.

I tried canceling but Fella is not catching the drift. So. I'll be cooking 'something very simple and will probably not be the most sparkling of company.'

If you didn't say straight out that you would like to reschedule for [insert your preferred night, here], you can't blame the man for not reading your mind. If I had a date scheduled, and then didn't feel well and didn't sleep, but liked the guy enough for a second date, I'd add the details about not sleeping and feeling lousy, but that's personal style.

Well, you can blame him in the sense that you're free to think whatever you want, but he may have just thought you were making conversation. Look how often we all come in here saying our asses ache.

Trudy, did the copies work ok?

If I had a date scheduled, and then didn't feel well and didn't sleep, but liked the guy enough for a second date, I'd add the details about not sleeping and feeling lousy, but that's personal style.

This is actually exactly what I said. Adding in that I hadn't really slept all week. Totally not his fault, obviously. Just me being distracted and suffering from self-imposed stress.

His response was that he didn't sleep well either...but he feels fine.

I think he's just so excited that we are hitting it off so well that he wasn't really thinking.

Also, our next possible option, if he does not come to the party tomorrow night (I think he's teaching a class) would be next Thursday.

That seems like too long, even for my aching ass.